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By Georgina Chang, georginac@mediacorp.com.sg, 05:55 AM Feb 12, 2011
PHOTO: Boys, getting lucky on V-Day has nothing to do with roses and an annual box of chocolates
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The writer is the senior creative director of 987FM and Lush 99.5.
Weekend Today, February 12 - 13, 2011, Column, Page T3 (The Fairer Text)
I WANT to sit at home watching Family Guy on TV, and eating my weight in chocolates for Valentine's Day.
I've fantasised about doing that for a while. Sadly, my plans are often thwarted - though not because of a hot date. Quite often, something mundane comes up, like work, an urgent errand, or a crying, jilted friend.
You see, I don't think it's necessary to be out roaming the streets, clutching a few overpriced roses on Valentine's Day to prove that I am attractive, desired or wanted by someone … anyone.
It's also no fun to be subjected to a boyfriend who thinks it's cool to rebel against the commercialism by deliberately ta-powing chicken rice and watching a football match on TV. And neglecting me.
I've fantasised about doing that for a while. Sadly, my plans are often thwarted - though not because of a hot date. Quite often, something mundane comes up, like work, an urgent errand, or a crying, jilted friend.
You see, I don't think it's necessary to be out roaming the streets, clutching a few overpriced roses on Valentine's Day to prove that I am attractive, desired or wanted by someone … anyone.
It's also no fun to be subjected to a boyfriend who thinks it's cool to rebel against the commercialism by deliberately ta-powing chicken rice and watching a football match on TV. And neglecting me.
PHOTO: No fun to be subjected to a boyfriend who thinks it's cool to rebel against the commercialism by deliberately ta-powing chicken rice and watching a football match on TV. And neglecting me.
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Valentine's Day is about lots of chocolate, a good wine, great conversation and ending the evening with a happy glow. And that's something you can enjoy whether you're single or attached. It's not a day to judge your own self-worth by the gifts or dinners you can brag about.
So I refuse to ask my man to send beautiful flowers to my office for all my colleagues to gasp at enviously, just to prove to them that I am loved.
I refuse to ask him to take me to Il Lido for an expensive dinner, just to prove to other diners that I'm not sitting at home alone and unwanted.
I refuse to ask for a box of 24 pieces of my favourite dark chocolate truffles or a sparkling diamond tennis bracelet to prove to myself that he really does care about me.
It's not that I don't enjoy the gifts or dinner. I just don't want to feel that he only makes the effort on Valentine's Day. More importantly, I want him to treat me special every day that we have together.
I used to work at Sins chocolate boutique, and was tickled to see scores of men wander in, looking dazed and confused on Valentine's Day.
They had an end goal in mind, clearly: The men wanted chocolates because they knew that to get some sugar, they had to give some sugar.
They just didn't know what would seal the deal.
Guys, let me help you out.
You have to understand that with most women, that one annual box of chocolates isn't going to get you the candles and lovin' later that night. You want a grand gesture? Try a brand new Audi A5 or a three-bedroom
penthouse.
The other grand gesture (or so you think) of a bunch of roses will get you a smile and a pat on the shoulder.
Really, guys, it's about the build-up. The daily gestures. The frequent thoughtful acts of kindness. Give her the feeling that you would do anything to oblige her.
Like opening the car door - or any door - for her. Always offering to carry her shopping bags (but not her handbag, please). Volunteering to do the washing up. Surprising her with her favourite cake or Gong Cha bubble tea. Offering to pick her up in Tampines when you're in Jurong. Saying something nice when she's wearing a new dress, or got a new haircut.
Or just saying something nice, period.
You're a smart guy - you know what pleases women and melts our hearts. It's really not rocket science.
So why wait until this one day to frantically bear the grudging gifts to show us that you care? We know what you want, but this isn't a barter trade.
And there's still time. You can start doing these sweet small gestures for her over the next three days. It will cost far less than that Audi.
And on Valentine's Day, I've got something special to help you along.
At 10pm, Lush 99.5FM plays two hours of talk-free sexy "make out" music. That's two good hours to help you set the right ambience and mood (nice plug, I know).
Light a few candles, and chill a nice wine. Let's have good conversation that doesn't revolve around irritating colleagues, friends and family, or how to upgrade the house, car and job.
Let's share our dreams, and parley about the exciting countries we've visited and other clever things we've learnt in this lifetime.
Affirm what you find attractive about her (here's a tip: A mind is a beautiful thing) and let her know how interesting, wonderful and sweet she is.
I'm quite sure you'll be smiling before midnight.
By Georgina Chang, georginac@mediacorp.com.sg, 05:55 AM Feb 12, 2011
So I refuse to ask my man to send beautiful flowers to my office for all my colleagues to gasp at enviously, just to prove to them that I am loved.
I refuse to ask him to take me to Il Lido for an expensive dinner, just to prove to other diners that I'm not sitting at home alone and unwanted.
I refuse to ask for a box of 24 pieces of my favourite dark chocolate truffles or a sparkling diamond tennis bracelet to prove to myself that he really does care about me.
It's not that I don't enjoy the gifts or dinner. I just don't want to feel that he only makes the effort on Valentine's Day. More importantly, I want him to treat me special every day that we have together.
I used to work at Sins chocolate boutique, and was tickled to see scores of men wander in, looking dazed and confused on Valentine's Day.
They had an end goal in mind, clearly: The men wanted chocolates because they knew that to get some sugar, they had to give some sugar.
They just didn't know what would seal the deal.
Guys, let me help you out.
You have to understand that with most women, that one annual box of chocolates isn't going to get you the candles and lovin' later that night. You want a grand gesture? Try a brand new Audi A5 or a three-bedroom
penthouse.
The other grand gesture (or so you think) of a bunch of roses will get you a smile and a pat on the shoulder.
Really, guys, it's about the build-up. The daily gestures. The frequent thoughtful acts of kindness. Give her the feeling that you would do anything to oblige her.
Like opening the car door - or any door - for her. Always offering to carry her shopping bags (but not her handbag, please). Volunteering to do the washing up. Surprising her with her favourite cake or Gong Cha bubble tea. Offering to pick her up in Tampines when you're in Jurong. Saying something nice when she's wearing a new dress, or got a new haircut.
Or just saying something nice, period.
You're a smart guy - you know what pleases women and melts our hearts. It's really not rocket science.
So why wait until this one day to frantically bear the grudging gifts to show us that you care? We know what you want, but this isn't a barter trade.
And there's still time. You can start doing these sweet small gestures for her over the next three days. It will cost far less than that Audi.
And on Valentine's Day, I've got something special to help you along.
At 10pm, Lush 99.5FM plays two hours of talk-free sexy "make out" music. That's two good hours to help you set the right ambience and mood (nice plug, I know).
Light a few candles, and chill a nice wine. Let's have good conversation that doesn't revolve around irritating colleagues, friends and family, or how to upgrade the house, car and job.
Let's share our dreams, and parley about the exciting countries we've visited and other clever things we've learnt in this lifetime.
Affirm what you find attractive about her (here's a tip: A mind is a beautiful thing) and let her know how interesting, wonderful and sweet she is.
I'm quite sure you'll be smiling before midnight.
By Georgina Chang, georginac@mediacorp.com.sg, 05:55 AM Feb 12, 2011
The writer is the senior creative director of 987FM and Lush 99.5.
PHOTO: Always offering to carry her shopping bags (but not her handbag, please). Volunteering to do the washing up. Surprising her with her favourite cake or Gong Cha bubble tea. Offering to pick her up in Tampines when you're in Jurong. Saying something nice when she's wearing a new dress, or got a new haircut.
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Reference
- Weekend Today, February 12 - 13, 2011, Column, Page T3 (The Fairer Text)
- http://imcmsimages.mediacorp.sg/CMSFileserver/documents/006/PDF/20110212/1202COW002.pdf
- http://www.todayonline.com/Columns/Thefairertext/EDC110212-0000179/My-sweet-Valentine
- http://img243.imageshack.us/img243/5434/valentinedaywallpaperoz4.jpg
- http://2011-14.website.org/
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