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Friday, February 17, 2023

'Men do cry': This male nurse is okay with showing emotions at work

Source Website: https://www.asiaone.com/lifestyle/men-do-cry-male-nurse-okay-showing-emotions-work
By Claudia Tan, claudiatan@asiaone.com, Asiaone, 08 February 2023 at 06:00 pm
 

 Although some of his patients might not accept him, that doesn't stop Senior Staff Nurse Muhammad Shah from trying his best to care for them.
PHOTO: Although some of his patients might not accept him, that doesn't stop Senior Staff Nurse Muhammad Shah from trying his best to care for them.
Picture posted by Claudia Tan, claudiatan@asiaone.com, Asiaone on 08 February 2023 at 06:00 pm

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Despite having a decade of nursing experience firmly under his belt, Shah says that he still comes across patients who refuse his care.

"When I go to them they'll say, 'Call Missy, I want to change pampers', so I'll tell them that I'm a nurse and show my pass to them. But some of them insist on a female nurse," he tells AsiaOne.
 


To ensure his patients are comfortable, Shah makes sure to ask beforehand if they're okay with him attending to them.

Despite this 'obstacle', Shah doesn't feel particularly disadvantaged as compared to his female colleagues. In fact, he divulges that being male sometimes helps in dealing with difficult relatives.

He recalls an incident where he had to step in when a patient's family member got aggressive with his colleague after she refused to give them hot water.


"[The relative] started pointing fingers at my colleague, and his finger was in my colleague's face. If I didn't step in I think he would have punched my colleague.

"I pushed my colleague out of the way, held onto [the relative]'s hand, and asked him to talk [to us nicely]."

Not afraid to show emotions
 


Being tactful with the occasional hostile relative aside, being a nurse has also taught Shah that it's okay to show emotions — even on the job.

He shares a particularly poignant conversation he once had with a female patient, who told him that she was "ready to die".

Thinking that the patient was confused, Shah simply told her to wait for the doctor to attend to her.

"But she turned to me and said: 'I'm not confused, I'm not orang gila (a crazy person).'"

Three days later, Shah returned to work and found that the elderly patient's condition had deteriorated to the point where she was bedridden. Despite her condition, Shah vividly recalls how she held onto his arm and spoke to him about her life.


Three days later, Shah returned to work and found that the elderly patient's condition had deteriorated to the point where she was bedridden.
PHOTO: Three days later, Shah returned to work and found that the elderly patient's condition had deteriorated to the point where she was bedridden. Despite her condition, Shah vividly recalls how she held onto his arm and spoke to him about her life.
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"After I went off, the next day she passed on," he said. "I think she was waiting [to see me] before she left."

When asked how these interactions affect him, Shah is not afraid to admit: "During [these moments], I will cry in front of them.
 
"I learnt [during my training] that it's okay to show your emotions to the patients. But don't bring it home, because it will affect how you care for other patients."

"Men do cry," he confesses.

Mind over matter
 
Since becoming a nurse, Shah says he's learnt to be more rational when communicating with others.
PHOTO: Since becoming a nurse, Shah says he's learnt to be more rational when communicating with others.
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Picture posted by Claudia Tan, claudiatan@asiaone.com, Asiaone on 08 February 2023 at 06:00 pm

"Nursing has helped me to keep my cool, to help me be more relaxed when communicating [with others]."

Shah admits he used to be a "hot-tempered" person during his younger days. But after attending communication courses as part of his work curriculum, Shah says he's learnt to be more rational.

"Now I use my brain more than my emotions. [For example] If I'm hot-tempered and the patient's relative is also hot-tempered, it's not gonna solve anything. If I can't handle the situation, I'll just walk away."

Passion keeps him going
Although it was his initial interest in biology that got him started on his career, Shah says that one of his biggest motivators these days is his passion to care for his patients.
 

 Passion keeps him going
PHOTO: Passion keeps him going
Although it was his initial interest in biology that got him started on his career, Shah says that one of his biggest motivators these days is his passion to care for his patients.
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With regard to his career, Shah says that his family has been "really supportive". To help him cope with the emotional toll that comes with his job, Shah says his family excuses him from housework — so that his free time is well-spent with his three-year-old daughter.

"She knows I'm a nurse, when we went to Toys 'R' Us she saw a stethoscope, and she said 'Like Papa', so she asked me to buy it for her."
 

 With regard to his career, Shah says that his family has been 'really supportive.'
PHOTO: With regard to his career, Shah says that his family has been "really supportive". To help him cope with the emotional toll that comes with his job, Shah says his family excuses him from housework — so that his free time is well-spent with his three-year-old daughter.
"She knows I'm a nurse, when we went to Toys 'R' Us she saw a stethoscope, and she said 'Like Papa', so she asked me to buy it for her."
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"My biggest takeaway in nursing is when I attend to a patient, and when everything is over, the family members will come and say thank you to me, or apologise to me. That's where I feel relieved and glad that everything I did is for [the benefit] of the patient."

"Every day is different, but what stays the same is the difference I can make in my patients' lives."
 

 Every day is different, but what stays the same is the difference I can make in my patients' lives.
PHOTO: "Every day is different, but what stays the same is the difference I can make in my patients' lives."

By Claudia Tan, claudiatan@asiaone.com, Asiaone, 08 February 2023 at 06:00 pm
[1] Claudia Tan, claudiatan@asiaone.com, Asiaone, 'Men do cry': This male nurse is okay with showing emotions at work, posted on 08 February 2023 at 06:00 pm, https://www.asiaone.com/lifestyle/men-do-cry-male-nurse-okay-showing-emotions-work
 
 
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Monday, May 31, 2021

Five emotions that deliver plenty of healthful benefits

Source Website: https://www.tnp.sg/lifestyle/health/five-emotions-deliver-plenty-healthful-benefits
By The New Paper, 31 May 2021 at 06:00 am


You may have heard this before. Being optimistic helps you steer clear of heart diseases, reduces stress and keeps blood pressure low.
PHOTO: You may have heard this before. Being optimistic helps you steer clear of heart diseases, reduces stress and keeps blood pressure low. These five positive emotions - love, hope, empathy, gratitude and happiness - benefit your body.
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Love, hope, empathy, gratitude and happiness can even up your pain threshold.

You may have heard this before. Being optimistic helps you steer clear of heart diseases, reduces stress and keeps blood pressure low.

Here is how these five positive emotions - love, hope, empathy, gratitude and happiness - benefit your body.


When you experience love for someone, your body produces adrenaline and norepinephrine, which makes your heart race, plus dopamine, which makes you feel euphoric.
PHOTO: When you experience love for someone, your body produces adrenaline and norepinephrine, which makes your heart race, plus dopamine, which makes you feel euphoric.
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WHEN YOU ARE IN LOVE
Your body produces adrenaline and norepinephrine in the early days, which make your heart race, and dopamine to make you feel euphoric.

Oxytocin and vasopressin, which are hormones that create feelings of well-being and security, take over in established relationships to maintain the bond.

Health benefit: New couples have a higher pain threshold because intense love stimulates areas of the brain targeted by painkillers.

In the long term, love reduces your heart disease risk and protects against a middle-age decline in life satisfaction. It also minimises how much cortisol - the stress hormone - you produce when under strain.


WHEN YOU ARE IN LOVE
PHOTO: WHEN YOU ARE IN LOVE
Your body produces adrenaline and norepinephrine in the early days, which make your heart race, and dopamine to make you feel euphoric.
Oxytocin and vasopressin, which are hormones that create feelings of well-being and security, take over in established relationships to maintain the bond.
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Get that feeling: Increase the feeling by watching and talking about movies with your partner where relationships are the focus.

When couples did this five times for one month, they improved their relationships and halved their risk of splitting up.

Single? Book in for a massage or hug a dog - both strategies increase oxytocin, the bonding hormone responsible for a lot of love's health benefits.


WHEN YOU ARE IN LOVE
PHOTO: WHEN YOU ARE IN LOVE
Get that feeling: Single? Book in for a massage or hug a dog - both strategies increase oxytocin, the bonding hormone responsible for a lot of love's health benefits.
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WHEN YOU FEEL HOPEFUL
The parts of the brain responsible for you thinking positively (the rostral anterior cingulate cortex and amygdala) fire up.

Health benefit: Feeling cheery improves how your immune cells respond when confronted with a virus or bacteria.


WHEN YOU FEEL HOPEFUL PHOTO: WHEN YOU FEEL HOPEFUL
The parts of the brain responsible for you thinking positively (the rostral anterior cingulate cortex and amygdala) fire up.
Health benefit: Feeling cheery improves how your immune cells respond when confronted with a virus or bacteria.
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You will also find making healthy food choices easier because feeling expecting the best for the future boosts self-control.

Get that feeling: Increase the feeling by watching a funny movie. After just 15 minutes, your "hopefulness score" will be higher. Researchers say it works because humour inhibits negative thoughts.


WHEN YOU FEEL EMPATHETIC
Your brain increases production of oxytocin and triggers a network of brain neurons, simultaneously suppressing the network you use to analyse things.

Health benefit: Feeling empathetic increases how generous you feel towards people, which improves your health and lifespan. You will feel happier on average too.


WHEN YOU FEEL EMPATHETIC
PHOTO: WHEN YOU FEEL EMPATHETIC
Your brain increases production of oxytocin and triggers a network of brain neurons, simultaneously suppressing the network you use to analyse things.
Health benefit: Feeling empathetic increases how generous you feel towards people, which improves your health and lifespan. You will feel happier on average too.
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Get that feeling: Increase the feeling by reading a book. As long as it is fictional, reading gives the brain's empathetic region a workout.


WHEN YOU FEEL GRATEFUL
Your brain strengthens structures linked with social awareness and empathy, as well as the region that processes rewards.

Health benefit: Feeling grateful equals feeling happier. And if you verbalise it by saying thanks, it can also boost your romantic relationships and increase your chances of turning a new acquaintance into a friend.


WHEN YOU FEEL GRATEFUL
PHOTO: WHEN YOU FEEL GRATEFUL
Your brain strengthens structures linked with social awareness and empathy, as well as the region that processes rewards.
Health benefit: Feeling grateful equals feeling happier. And if you verbalise it by saying thanks, it can also boost your romantic relationships and increase your chances of turning a new acquaintance into a friend.
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Get that feeling: Boost the feeling by writing down five things you are grateful for every week. After 10 weeks, you will feel 25 per cent happier.

And make sure you get enough sleep as scientists have discovered a link between sleep deprivation and a tendency to feel ungrateful.


WHEN YOU ARE HAPPY
Your brain releases a combination of neurotransmitters, including dopamine, serotonin and endorphins. Also, levels of cortisol fall.

Health benefit: You will stay healthier and live longer, with one study saying happiness' effect on longevity can be compared to the difference between smoking and not smoking. Plus, compared with happy people, unhappy ones are 80 per cent more likely to develop age-related health problems.


WHEN YOU ARE HAPPY
PHOTO: WHEN YOU ARE HAPPY
Your brain releases a combination of neurotransmitters, including dopamine, serotonin and endorphins. Also, levels of cortisol fall. Compared with happy people, unhappy ones are 80 per cent more likely to develop age-related health problems.
Get that feeling: Increase the feeling by playing upbeat music and making a conscious decision to be happier - done together, it is a combination that works.
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Get that feeling: Increase the feeling by playing upbeat music and making a conscious decision to be happier - done together, it is a combination that works.

Or catch up with a friend, this increases production of progesterone, a hormone that boosts feelings of well-being.


Love, hope, empathy, gratitude and happiness can even up your pain threshold.
PHOTO: Love, hope, empathy, gratitude and happiness can even up your pain threshold.
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Catch up with a friend, this increases production of progesterone, a hormone that boosts feelings of well-being.
By The New Paper, 31 May 2021 at 06:00 am
This article was first published in The Singapore Women's Weekly/Bauer Syndication (www.womensweekly.com.sg)
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