Thursday, November 17, 2022

'You live for yourself': Phyllis Quek's (郭妃丽 Guō fēi lì) take on life made her seem cold and distant to others

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By Khoo Yi-Hang, khooyihang@asiaone.com, Asiaone, 12 November 2022 at 09:30 am
 

Phyllis Quek's (郭妃丽 Guō fēi lì) perspective on life left little space for her to focus on others.
PHOTO: Phyllis Quek's (郭妃丽 Guō fēi lì) perspective on life left little space for her to focus on others.
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Her demeanour may have denoted a cold and distant austerity, but Phyllis Quek (郭妃丽 Guō fēi lì) was just trying to get by with her own world view.

On the latest episode of the Mediacorp talk show Hear U Out, Phyllis revealed that her neutral and muted response to others wasn't because she was frigid and unfriendly, but that she didn't have the focus to spare on other things.

Phyllis, 50, was asked by host Quan Yi Fong about the most absurd, bold or incorrect thing that the former had done in their career or if she's ever hated someone to a great extent, to which Phyllis replied that she's experienced nothing of the sort.


Phyllis Quek (郭妃丽 Guō fēi lì) shares with Quan Yi Fong about her demeanour and relationships of the past.
PHOTO: Phyllis Quek (郭妃丽 Guō fēi lì) shares with Quan Yi Fong about her demeanour and relationships of the past.
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oyihang@asiaone.com, Asiaone on 11 November 2022 at 01:41 pm
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"I don't generally react strongly to people … [These things are] not worth letting them affect you," she said. "You live for yourself."

But her aversion to reaction also gave her an air of unapproachability, Yi Fong said, describing her as appearing unique, temperamental and mysterious.

Agreeing with her, Phyllis added that a producer had told her the same thing — that she seemed very cold.


I don't generally react strongly to people … [These things are] not worth letting them affect you,
PHOTO: "I don't generally react strongly to people … [These things are] not worth letting them affect you," she said. "You live for yourself."
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Explained Phyllis: "Perhaps all my focus was on filming — I was facing pressure from filming, from myself and from external sources such as the media. I felt that I had enough [to worry about]."

She also claimed that she never worried about what her other colleagues or co-workers thought about her. Instead, what mattered was what the audience thought of her.

Phyllis also mentioned that the criticism she received was something that she would put through a filter.


She also claimed that she never worried about what her other colleagues or co-workers thought about her. Instead, what mattered was what the audience thought of her.
PHOTO: She also claimed that she never worried about what her other colleagues or co-workers thought about her. Instead, what mattered was what the audience thought of her.
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"You have to make a decision for yourself. Of course, I accept constructive suggestions and do some self-reflection, but if the advice is bad, I'll naturally ignore it."

Yi Fong also raised a past experience that Phyllis had where a viewer of a show that Phyllis acted in kept sending hate mail to her.

Phyllis said: "He wrote some nasty things… I can't say they didn't bother me. Of course I was affected, but I had to continue filming. What else could I do?"


The most important a girl wear is her confidence.
PHOTO: "The most important a girl wear is her confidence. You have to make a decision for yourself. Of course, I accept constructive suggestions and do some self-reflection, but if the advice is bad, I'll naturally ignore it."
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Admitting that it was a struggle for her, she also expressed gratitude towards some friends of hers that have stuck with her since secondary school and lent a listening ear to her troubles.

Addressing why she chooses not confront those that have wronged her, Phyllis said: "I can't please everyone.

"I have my own stress to cope with, I have my own issues to deal with, how could I possibly worry about so many other things? I'm not an octopus (referring to multitasking), I would go crazy."


It was an absolute pleasure to have been invited as a guest on Hear U Out hosted by Quan Yifeng.
PHOTO: "It was an absolute pleasure to have been invited as a guest on Hear U Out hosted by Quan Yifeng. I had a wonderful time and I want to thank everyone who made this episode such a memorable one for me. #权听你说3 (Quán tīng nǐ shuō 3)"
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Perhaps all my focus was on filming — I was facing pressure from filming, from myself and from external sources such as the media. I felt that I had enough [to worry about].
PHOTO: "Perhaps all my focus was on filming — I was facing pressure from filming, from myself and from external sources such as the media. I felt that I had enough [to worry about]."
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The 50-year-old star married Australian businessman David Cox in 2012.
PHOTO: The 50-year-old star married Australian businessman David Cox in 2012. After leaving the business, she has been accompanying her husband on his work trips overseas and has even taken up baking as a hobby. She even attended a pastry class in Paris to hone her skills.
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In 2017, she was quoted by the Chinese daily as saying that her husband gave her his support and told her that he didn't mind that she had kissing scenes.
PHOTO: In 2017, she was quoted by the Chinese daily as saying that her husband gave her his support and told her that he didn't mind that she had kissing scenes. She added that out of respect, she would not have gone ahead with the show if he expressed concern over those scenes.
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According to Toggle
PHOTO: According to Toggle, in 2017, Quek played a sultry and "unscrupulous middle-aged businesswoman, Fang Hai Lun, who is madly in love with Zhang Zhen Huan's character". The entertainment site also reported that Quek has many intimate scenes in the show.
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Addressing why she chooses not confront those that have wronged her
PHOTO: Addressing why she chooses not confront those that have wronged her, Phyllis said: "I can't please everyone.
"I have my own stress to cope with, I have my own issues to deal with, how could I possibly worry about so many other things? I'm not an octopus (referring to multitasking), I would go crazy."
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A poised beauty with an enticing charisma, Phyllis Quek is without a doubt one of Singapore’s most established and recognized actress.
PHOTO: A poised beauty with an enticing charisma, Phyllis Quek is without a doubt one of Singapore’s most established and recognized actress.
With 8 Star Awards
Top 10 Most Popular Female Artisterecognitions to her name, Phyllis’ uniqueness and versatility is the reason why she remains deeply entrenched in the hearts of the audience even till now.
Ever stunningly attractive and glamorous, she is set to soar and bring new inspirations to all movie and television audiences. - Hype Records Pte Ltd, https://www.hyperecords.com/artistes/phyllis-quek/
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Commercially successfully
PHOTO: Commercially successfully, Phyllis has also joined the ranks of internationally acclaimed likes of Michelle Pfeiffer and Maggie Cheung as the LUX Star, as well as alongside Christy Cheung as the face for Marie France Bodyline, thus accomplishing true validation of a star’s celebrity cachet. - Hype Records Pte Ltd, https://www.hyperecords.com/artistes/phyllis-quek/
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Yi Fong also raised a past experience that Phyllis had where a viewer of a show that Phyllis acted in kept sending hate mail to her.
PHOTO: Yi Fong also raised a past experience that Phyllis had where a viewer of a show that Phyllis acted in kept sending hate mail to her.
Phyllis said:
"He wrote some nasty things… I can't say they didn't bother me. Of course I was affected, but I had to continue filming. What else could I do?"
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Her aversion to reaction also gave her an air of unapproachability, appearing unique, temperamental and mysterious.
PHOTO: Her aversion to reaction also gave her an air of unapproachability, appearing unique, temperamental and mysterious.
Artwork by Cornelis van Poelenburg - The Goddess Calypso rescues Ulysses
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[1] Khoo Yi-Hang, khooyihang@asiaone.com, Asiaone, 'You live for yourself': Phyllis Quek's take on life made her seem cold and distant to others, posted on 12 November 2022 at 09:30 am, https://www.asiaone.com/entertainment/live-yourself-phyllis-queks-take-on-life-cold-distant-others-hear-u-out-quan-yi-fong


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