Adapted from books by Shelly Beach: Ambushed By Grace: Help and Hope in the Caregiving Journey, and It Is Well with My Soul.
When Grace's mother suffered a brain injury after a fall, Grace and her family kept asking God, "Why did You let this happen? Why didn't You intervene?"
Some things in life just don't seem to make sense. It can be hard to believe in God's goodness when someone we love lives with chronic pain or illness. Why doesn't God cure our loved ones? Why are we saddled with the responsibility of caregiving when others can't be bothered? Why are we being burdened beyond what we feel we can bear? Why is God allowing such suffering?
Many of us dare not ask these questions out loud simply because we have been taught not to question God. We have been told to restrain our resentment, trust in His sovereignty, and not doubt Him, because that would be tantamount to challenging His authority.
But here's something to consider: Our God is big enough to handle all these questions! He is never surprised nor insulted by them.
There is a difference between challenging God's authority, as if He was accountable to us, and humbly seeking answers from Him, saying, "Lord, I don't understand what's going on. Why is this happening? Show me how to keep trusting You." The difference is in the posture of our hearts behind the questions: God welcomes our deepest and darkest questions, asked in humility.
The Bible contains numerous examples of people questioning God when things were going badly. Hit by crisis, Job didn't hesitate to ask God: "If I have sinned, what have I done to you. you who see everything we do? Why have you made me your target? Have I become a burden to you? Why do you not pardon my offences and forgive my sins?" (Job 7:20-21)
The prophet Habakkuk also challenged God over the injustice he saw around him. "Why then do you tolerate the treacherous? Why are you silent while the wicked swallow up those more righteous than themselves?" (Habakkuk 1:13)
What is significant about all these people's earnest questioning is that it led them back to God, not away from Him. Grace says her honest questioning brought her closer to God, and gave her a deeper understanding of what it means to trust Him even when things didn't make sense.
When we take our struggles to God honestly and humbly, it builds our relationship with Him. We will learn to trust Him and understand that even when we don't get the answers we seek, we have the assurance that He is in full control of our situation, and will deal with it in His time and way. Above all, we will have the comfort of His presence, knowing that He accompanies us on our journey of caregiving.
Don't be afraid to question God; He's big enough to take it.
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When Grace's mother suffered a brain injury after a fall, Grace and her family kept asking God, "Why did You let this happen? Why didn't You intervene?"
Some things in life just don't seem to make sense. It can be hard to believe in God's goodness when someone we love lives with chronic pain or illness. Why doesn't God cure our loved ones? Why are we saddled with the responsibility of caregiving when others can't be bothered? Why are we being burdened beyond what we feel we can bear? Why is God allowing such suffering?
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Many of us dare not ask these questions out loud simply because we have been taught not to question God. We have been told to restrain our resentment, trust in His sovereignty, and not doubt Him, because that would be tantamount to challenging His authority.
But here's something to consider: Our God is big enough to handle all these questions! He is never surprised nor insulted by them.
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There is a difference between challenging God's authority, as if He was accountable to us, and humbly seeking answers from Him, saying, "Lord, I don't understand what's going on. Why is this happening? Show me how to keep trusting You." The difference is in the posture of our hearts behind the questions: God welcomes our deepest and darkest questions, asked in humility.
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The Bible contains numerous examples of people questioning God when things were going badly. Hit by crisis, Job didn't hesitate to ask God: "If I have sinned, what have I done to you. you who see everything we do? Why have you made me your target? Have I become a burden to you? Why do you not pardon my offences and forgive my sins?" (Job 7:20-21)
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The prophet Habakkuk also challenged God over the injustice he saw around him. "Why then do you tolerate the treacherous? Why are you silent while the wicked swallow up those more righteous than themselves?" (Habakkuk 1:13)
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What is significant about all these people's earnest questioning is that it led them back to God, not away from Him. Grace says her honest questioning brought her closer to God, and gave her a deeper understanding of what it means to trust Him even when things didn't make sense.
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When we take our struggles to God honestly and humbly, it builds our relationship with Him. We will learn to trust Him and understand that even when we don't get the answers we seek, we have the assurance that He is in full control of our situation, and will deal with it in His time and way. Above all, we will have the comfort of His presence, knowing that He accompanies us on our journey of caregiving.
Don't be afraid to question God; He's big enough to take it.
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Source (book): "He Walks with Me - Devotions for Your Caregiving Journey with God", PART I "JOURNEYING WITH GOD", Chapter 5 "Ask God!", Page 18.
Adapted from books by Shelly Beach: Ambushed By Grace: Help and Hope in the Caregiving Journey, and It Is Well with My Soul.
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"God in Pursuit" Lessons from the Book of Jonah, © 2016 by Robert M. Solomon
Reflection - God in Pursuit (Links) - PART I-III, posted on Saturday, 10 August 2019
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Reflection - God in Pursuit (Links) - PART IV, posted on Saturday, 10 August 2019
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"Growing Old Gracefully", Following Jesus to the End, © 2019 by Robert M. Solomon
Reflection - Growing Old Gracefully, Part I - III (Links), posted on Wednesday, 09 December 2020
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Reflection - Growing Old Gracefully, Part IV - V (Links), posted on Thursday, 22 April 2021
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"Teach Us to Number Our Days", © 2008 by David Roper
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