By Candice Cai, candicec@sph.com.sg, AsiaOne, 31 August 2017
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A promotion and pay raise is what drives many of us in the rat-race that is our career.
Sure, passion for your job, getting recognition for your work, loving your colleagues and the work environment are other factors that make you stay.
But would you pass up on a better-paying job that's basically a step-up the ladder?
One man did, and his explanation has resonated with many.
Steve Crider, a senior recruiter at business consultancy McKinsey, recently wrote on LinkedIn about how he cold-called a candidate about a new job opportunity years ago. But the man turned it down, much to his surprise.
"I pressed him on it until he said something that really confused me. He told me that he 'already made it to the top'. Only thing was, he wasn't 'anywhere near the top'.
"He would have needed a telescope to see the top. He wasn't even a manager yet," Crider said drily.
But the potential candidate explained that accepting the promotion would mean more time taken away from what matters more to him - his family, and it's "not worth it".
Wrote Crider: "He explained to me that 'making it to the top' for him meant he loved the exact work he did each day, he loved his company, he was treated fairly and with respect, he made enough money to be comfortable, he had excellent benefits, he had flexibility, and most importantly to him, he's never missed a single Little League game, dance recital, parent-teacher conference, anniversary, birthday, or any family event."
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Crider's post about the experience has gone viral since it was posted on LinkedIn a week ago, attracting more than 1,500, mostly-positive comments. A version posted on Facebook has also been shared more than 13,000 times.
Many people loved it:
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It also inspired others to share their stories:
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Crider's intention in telling this story was not to ridicule the man, but rather to inspire others to stick to what's important to them in their lives.
As a parting shot, he wrote: "Your definition of 'making it to the top' doesn't have to be society's or anyone else's definition. You Do You."
Like many of those who responded, we couldn't agree more.
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PHOTO: Take that path less travelled out of the fallen world. It's free. No competition. Peace and joy, full of milk and honey. Absolutely worry free. Go for the better reward than what you may have now.
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Reference
[1] Candice Cai, candicec@sph.com.sg, AsiaOne, Man rejects better-paying job because he's 'already made it', but it's not what you think, posted on 31 August 2017, http://www.asiaone.com/business/man-rejects-better-paying-job-because-hes-already-made-it-its-not-what-you-think
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