Wednesday, December 13, 2017

Dear Thelma, If I leave my sugar daddy, who will pay for my car

PHOTO: I'm a sugar baby, his wife is ok with it, but I want to marry him.
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Dear Thelma
Early this year, I signed up as a “sugar baby” on a dating website for young women looking for older men (name of website withheld – Ed.). At first I thought it would be fun to just date older rich guys.

Then I actually met this guy from the website and it started as just fun but turned serious. We have had sex many times and it is amazing each time. He gives me an allowance of RM5,000 every month, even more than my pay which is only RM3,500. He also pays for my car installment every month.



Dating website for young women looking for older men (older rich guys).
PHOTO: Dating website for young women looking for older men (older rich guys). Allowance of RM5,000 every month, more than the RM3,500 pay. He also pays for car instalment every month.
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The problem is he is married and his wife found out. She came to my office in a luxury minivan along with her driver and maid and spoke to me in the car park.

She told me she could accept her husband having a sugar baby, especially someone as young as me. I am 29 and she is 45 but she wants me to follow a few rules. What I need to do is to make sure to be discreet ALL the time and to take down all the photos I have with him on social media. I must make sure her friends never find out.



His wife told me she could accept her husband having a sugar baby, especially someone as young as me. . . . .
PHOTO: "His wife told me she could accept her husband having a sugar baby, especially someone as young as me. . . . " They have been married for many years and everything were perfect until "Sugar Baby" came into their lives.
There are women who have accepted the fact that their husbands have needs that cannot be fulfilled by the marriage. So they turn a blind eye to their husbands’ extramarital activities. This does not mean they are happy with the decision. Nor does it mean that it is an easy decision to make and live with. [2]
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That is not a problem but I am in a dilemma. Is what I am doing wrong if his wife knows and is ok with it? I want to be married too and I know if I continue with him, I won’t have a chance to get married and will continue to be a mistress.

If I give up now, I can’t afford to pay for my car. What do you think I should do? – Confused Sugar Baby


Is what I am doing wrong if his wife knows and is ok with it?
PHOTO: Is what I am doing wrong if his wife knows and is ok with it? Step into her shoe and find out the feeling of betrayal and rejection? Treachery?
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Dear Confused Sugar Baby
I had a look at the website you mentioned. It promises “mentorship” and professional connections but what I’m seeing is something quite different.

With sexual harassment being endemic it may feel like you’re being clever at taking advantage of old men who lust after young women, but what I see is that you are being conned into prostitution.

While you think about that, let’s start by taking a look at your particular situation.

I’d say the first question is, are you hurting anyone? You have convinced yourself your boyfriend’s wife is fine with the situation. From your description, I’d disagree. The lady is terrified people will discover her husband is having an affair with a girl young enough to be his daughter.

While her circumstances are unclear, the poor woman is stuck in a relationship that hurts her deeply. And you can’t deny your part in that. So you need to ask yourself whether you can still be happy, knowing that you are hurting someone.



While her circumstances are unclear, the poor woman is stuck in a relationship that hurts her deeply.
PHOTO: "While her circumstances are unclear, the poor woman is stuck in a relationship that hurts her deeply. And you can’t deny your part in that. So you need to ask yourself whether you can still be happy, knowing that you are hurting someone."
Can the poor woman ever learn to love and trust again?
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The second question is, are you hurting yourself? You’ve made your values very clear and while you get 100% for openness you must know they are not the norm in conservative Malaysia.

You ask if it’s wrong, so let’s look at some possible consequences of your choices.

First, old men lust after young women. You might hold on for a year or two, but pretty soon you will be replaced with a younger girl. Where will that leave you? What is the age limit on a sugar baby?



Old men lust after young women.
PHOTO: Old men lust after young women. You might hold on for a year or two, but pretty soon you will be replaced with a younger girl. Where will that leave you? What is the age limit on a sugar baby?
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Second, studies show that the stigma, low autonomy and other issues that come with putting a price on yourself are linked to depression, self harm, suicide and other mental health problems.

Third, suppose your private life becomes public knowledge, what will happen then? Ask yourself, how will your family and friends react? Also, would you be able to keep your day job?

Finally, Malaysia’s laws are formulated around religious principles so you could be inviting trouble. You’d need to talk to a lawyer to ascertain all the legalities, but at the very least your boyfriend’s wife might cite your affair in a divorce. She might even be able to sue you for damages.

You will make your own choices, but I strongly suggest a more conventional path is a better choice. If you focus on your career, you can make your own money for decades to come. And for your own happiness, find a partner who is free to love you openly, and who will still love you when your Sweet Young Thing days are over.



A more conventional path is a better choice. If you focus on your career, you can make your own money for decades to come.
PHOTO: A more conventional path is a better choice. If you focus on your career, you can make your own money for decades to come. And for your own happiness, find a partner who is free to love you openly, and who will still love you when your Sweet Young Thing days are over.
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By Star2.com, 10 December 2017



Reference
[1] Star2.com, Dear Thelma, If I leave my sugar daddy, who will pay for my car, posted on 10 December 2017, http://www.star2.com/family/2017/12/10/dear-thelma-leave-sugar-daddy-who-pay-car/

[2] Star2.com, Dear Thelma: My husband wants me to accept his mistress, posted on 12 June 2016, http://www.star2.com/family/relationships/2016/06/12/dear-thelma-my-husband-wants-me-to-accept-his-mistress/

Tuesday, December 12, 2017

Air pollution fine particles linked to poor sperm quality

PHOTO: "Particulate matter contains many toxic chemicals such as heavy metals and polycyclic aromatic hydrocarbons, which have demonstrated harmful to semen quality in laboratory and animal studies," lead author Xiang Qian Lao told Reuters Health in an email.
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Exposure to fine particles in air pollution may be another factor that affects men's sperm quality and their fertility, suggest researchers in Taiwan.

Although the clinical effect may be small, the findings could be important from a public health perspective due to worldwide exposure to pollution, the authors write in BMJ Occupational and Environmental Medicine.

"Particulate matter contains many toxic chemicals such as heavy metals and polycyclic aromatic hydrocarbons, which have demonstrated harmful to semen quality in laboratory and animal studies," lead author Xiang Qian Lao told Reuters Health in an email.

"Sperm shape and size is an important parameter for fertility. Lower percentage/number of normal sperm may cause infertility," said Lao, a researcher with the Jockey Club School of Public Health and Primary Care at The Chinese University of Hong Kong.

Although exposure to environmental chemicals has long been considered a potential contributor to infertility, little is known about the effect of air pollution, the study team writes.

They looked at both short-term and long-term exposure to the very fine particles in air pollution known as PM 2.5, which are 2.5 microns or less - about thirty times smaller than the diameter of a human hair. These fine particles can penetrate deep into the lungs and even enter the bloodstream.



Air pollution, particularly levels of fine particulate matter (PM 2.5), is associated with poorer quality sperm and may lead to infertility, says study.
PHOTO: Air pollution, particularly levels of fine particulate matter (PM 2.5), is associated with poorer quality sperm and may lead to infertility, says study.
The researchers said that although the size of the effect is relatively small in clinical terms, given how widespread air pollution is, this might spell infertility for a "significant number of couples".
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This kind of particle pollution can be found both indoors and outdoors and most often comes from vehicle exhaust, the burning of wood, crops, coal or heating oil, and from emissions given off by power plants and other industries.

Cities in China and India have recently been struggling with PM 2.5 pollution levels much higher than is considered safe by the World Health Organisation (WHO).

Lao's team analysed health exam records and health questionnaires for nearly 6,500 Taiwanese men ages 15 to 49 who participated in a medical examination programme between 2001 and 2014.

Semen samples were taken and the men's sperm quality was assessed for the total sperm number, as well as their size, shape and ability to move.



Semen samples were taken and the men’s sperm quality was assessed for the total sperm number, as well as their size, shape and ability to move.
PHOTO: Semen samples were taken and the men’s sperm quality was assessed for the total sperm number, as well as their size, shape and ability to move.
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Because it takes about three months for a man to make new sperm, the researchers used each participant's address as well as satellite data to estimate his exposure to PM 2.5 pollution over a three-month period as well as his average exposure over two years. Both long- and short-term average particle concentrations were typically within the safe range, with about half below 26 micrograms of particle pollution per cubic meter of air.

For every incremental exposure increase of 5 micrograms, however, researchers found that men's sperm concentration increased slightly while their risk of abnormally shaped sperm rose by 18 per cent with short-term exposure and 26 per cent with long-term exposure.

The study wasn't a controlled experiment designed to determine whether or how PM 2.5 pollution may affect sperm.

Still, Lao said, "Given the ubiquity of exposure to air pollution, a small effect size of PM 2.5 on sperm normal morphology may result in a significant number of couples with infertility. Thus, global strategies are necessary to minimise the impact of air pollution on reproductive health."

The primary finding of this study is a significant decrease in the percentage of sperm that are normally shaped with increasing air pollution (PM 2.5), but the percentage of sperm that are morphologically normal is still very high, said Shanna Swan, a researcher with the Environmental Medicine and Public Health department at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in New York.

The change in sperm concentration is difficult to interpret, noted Swann, who wasn't involved in the study. For one thing, the average sperm concentration in the participants was fairly low.

"Strengths of the study are its large size, its use of cutting-edge estimates of air pollution and WHO semen analysis methods," she said in an email.

Semen quality is significantly related to fertility; men with no (or very few) moving sperm cannot fertilize an egg, she noted.



Given the ubiquity of exposure to air pollution, a small effect size of PM2.5 on sperm normal morphology may result in a significant number of couples with infertility.
PHOTO: Given the ubiquity of exposure to air pollution, a small effect size of PM2.5 on sperm normal morphology may result in a significant number of couples with infertility.
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By Reuters, 12 December 2017



Reference
[1]  Reuters, Air pollution fine particles linked to poor sperm quality, posted on 12 December 2017, http://www.asiaone.com/health/air-pollution-fine-particles-linked-poor-sperm-quality

Monday, December 11, 2017

Reflection - Going to Jesus - Hopes and Fears

Source (book): "Finding rest for the soul", Chapter Two, Question 1, Page 44.
By Robert M. Solomon, Bishop of the Methodist Church in Singapore from 2000 - 2012


Why do people prefer to go everywhere else other than to Jesus?
PHOTO: Why do people prefer to go everywhere else other than to Jesus?
Since the time of Abraham we have shown that we still hesitate to go to Jesus despite the initial enthusiasm. Abraham's father, Terah, also faced the same situation of leaving his country but not reaching God's Promised Land. He was unable or unwilling to go all the way to the final destination due to certain fears which are similar to ours. The obstacles and fears to go to Jesus are:
  • Having to leave our comfort zone
  • Encounter difficulties along the way
  • Fear of what might happen

However there were others who with faith and trust in God, 'obeyed, set out, and arrived' at the Promised Land, just like Abraham. They did this even though they did not understand God's plan fully. They preferred to go to Jesus because they knew that it was better to travel with God in apparently dangerous circumstances than to sit comfortably at home, living an illusion that would bring them nowhere. With faith, their hopes in Jesus are:

  • Presence and promise of God (Genesis 12:1)
  • Looking forward to the city with foundations, whose architect and builder is God (Hebrews 11:10)
  • Longing for a better country - a heavenly one (Hebrews 11:16)

Good intention must be translated into actions, and these actions must persevere. If we are to go to Jesus, we must go all the way. As a result, we will be greatly blessed.

What does it mean to seek first the kingdom of God?

  • To seek the things of God (especially salvation) as a priority over the things of the world
  • Spend energies in the services of God
  • God's idea of what we need is often different from ours
  • Focus not on things of this world but upon the things of God's kingdom
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"I See the Son of Man Standing on the Right Hand of God"
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Why do people prefer to go everywhere else other than to Jesus? What does it say about their hopes and fears? What does it mean to seek first the kingdom of God?

Why do people prefer to go everywhere else other than to Jesus?
[1]
The story of how Abraham, the patriarch of the Jews, left the familiarity and comforts of the Mesopotamian city of Ur holds many lessons for us. When God called him to go to Canaan, it was as if He was saying to Abraham, "Come to Me to the promised land, where I will bless you beyond your expectations."



The story of Abraham is told in Genesis, the first book of the Bible.
PHOTO: The story of Abraham is told in Genesis, the first book of the Bible. According to the Bible, Abraham came from Ur in Mesopotamia (now Iraq). When God called him to go to Canaan, it was as if He was saying to Abraham, "Come to Me to the promised land, where I will bless you beyond your expectations."
Painting by Jozsef Molnar (1821-1899), Hungary, Budapest, 19th century - Abraham's Journey from Ur to Canaan, 1850
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Abraham was then living with his father Terah in a pagan city that worshiped the moon god Sin. How God spoke to Abraham is not clear, though there are Jewish legends suggesting that Abraham had become increasingly aware of the true God who created all things - including the sun and the moon - and had discovered that it was far more meaningful to worship this Creator rather than the things He had created.

God told Abraham, "Go from your country, your people and your father's household to the land I will show you" (
Genesis 12:1). Perhaps Abraham shared this with his father and his family, because Terah himself took Abraham and his family "to go to Canaan" (Genesis 11:31). Did God akso speak to Terah? We cannot be sure. In those days, however, society was patriarchal, and it was unlikely that Terah would simply follow his son without making his own decision to move.


God told Abraham, 'Go from your country, your people and your father's household to the land I will show you' (Genesis 12:1).


PHOTO: God told Abraham, "Go from your country, your people and your father's household to the land I will show you" (Genesis 12:1).
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But the group stopped at a place called Haran. They had travelled along the Euphrates River and arrived at the edge of the fertile green lands that surrounded it. Beyond Haran lay the desert, which they would have to cross to arrive at Canaan. It would seem that they had arrived at the edge of their comfort zone.



Abraham with his father, Terah, and his family travelled along the Euphrates River and arrived and stopped at the edge of the fertile green lands that surrounded it, Haran.
PHOTO: Abraham with his father, Terah, and his family travelled along the Euphrates River and arrived and stopped at the edge of the fertile green lands that surrounded it, Haran. Beyond Haran lay the desert, which they would have to cross to arrive at Canaan.
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Leaving but Never Arriving: Terah's Half-Journey [1]
Terah's story ends at Haran. Perhaps he wanted to stay within his comfort zone. He died there and never reached the Promised Land.



Terah's story ends at Haran.
PHOTO: Terah's story ends at Haran. Perhaps he wanted to stay within his comfort zone. He died there and never reached the Promised Land.
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Unable or unwilling to leave comfort zone
If had indeed been responding to God's call to Abraham, then he would be an example of those who hear the call and begin moving towards Jesus, but stop along the way, unwilling to leave familiar territory. They never quite arrive at where Jesus is, because they remain tethered (tied) to their favourite thing and are unable or unwilling to cut the ropes and free themselves. The call of Jesus is promising, and they want to take it seriously. But they are held back by other voices, fears, or insecurities. Or perhaps they feel an initial attraction to Jesus' words, but over time, they return to their daily routines, held back by inertia. Like Terah, a person may go halfway but fail to reach Jesus. He attends church a couple of times and then quits, never moving beyond. Or perhaps he tries reading the Bible, but gets lost in the details of the Israelites' genealogy or the laws on temple rituals.



Unable
PHOTO: Unable or unwilling to leave comfort zone
Terah journeyed through the land of Haran. A land having the same name as his dead son. And, it was too much for him to get over. It brought back all the pain and grief and he couldn’t leave. He settled in the land of Haran – he settled in his grief – in the memories of his dead son – and he died there. He couldn’t get over the grief inside and because of that he never reached the land of Canaan, the Promised Land.
And tragedy and grief will find each of us at some time in our journey through life – and it’s a guarantee that somewhere – somehow – sometime – we’ll find ourselves in the land of Haran and forced to face it again.
Will we give up and die there?
Or will we gather ourselves together, face it and move on – and reach our vision – our land of Canaan?
Just remember – when you’re in the land of Haran – there is a land of Canaan. It’s waiting for us. We can reach it. [3]
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Encounter difficulties along the way
Many people give up their search for God because they encounter difficulties along the way. They often realise that persisting in their search requires substantial commitments that they are not quite prepared to make.



Encounter difficulties along the way
PHOTO: Encounter difficulties along the way
Many people give up their search for God because they encounter difficulties along the way. They often realise that persisting in their search requires substantial commitments that they are not quite prepared to make.
Picture posted by Watch Tower Bible and Tract Society of Pennsylvania - God destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah because of their lawlessness. Lot and his daughters had faith enough to not look back. Imitate their faith! (Lot and his two daughters escape to Zoar but latter settled in the mountains, for he was afraid to stay in Zoar. At this place the two daughters drunk him and impregnated themselves by their father to preserve their family line.)
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Encounter distractions along the way
Many complications can arise when we begin answering the invitation of Jesus. We may get distracted and abandon our well intended journey, or we can become paralysed by uncertainty.



Encounter distractions along the way
PHOTO: Encounter distractions along the way
Many complications can arise when we begin answering the invitation of Jesus. We may get distracted and abandon our well intended journey, or we can become paralysed by uncertainty.
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Stagnant due to Fear of what might happen
It is like waiting at a bus stop when the bus arrives, but not getting on because you're afraid of what might happen: the metaphorical bus stop then becomes your home, where you settle and try to make yourself comfortable. Something deep within you, however, tells you that you are not really happy, that your present life is quite meaningless. To drown out this troubling voice, you occupy yourself with amusements or resort to drink and passing fancies. But the thoughts keep on coming, like waves hitting the shore. Realising that you cannot get out of your rut (habit or pattern of behaviour) without some sort of commitment, you then get onto the bus. But as the vehicle travels on, you are plagued by uncertainty and the fear of losing what you had been comfortable with. As your familiar bus stop recedes into the distance, your doubts increase. You look around at your fellow travellers. Some sit calmly, others happily discuss the destination. But you also see those who are still thinking about what they have left behind. Some of these travellers are grumbling and openly expressing doubts over their decisions; some get off the bus at the next stop. You are tempted to do the same.



Stagnant due to Fear of what might happen
PHOTO: Stagnant due to Fear of what might happen
It is like waiting at a bus stop when the bus arrives, but not getting on because we're afraid of what might happen: the metaphorical bus stop then becomes our home, where we settle and try to make ourself comfortable. We have the tendency to cling on to the known and familiar.
Try saying "I love you" with real meaning. We will begin to find a very different world opening to use, one where fear took a back seat. And any fear diminished in importance. As long as we keep the body open and stay in a place of complete acceptance, it will be very hard for fear to establish itself. [4]
Please note the fear described here is different from the fear of a charging wild animal. That fear is False Evidence Actually Real.
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To go to Jesus, we must go all the way
Terah was like this - he got off God's bus to the Promised Land. He died in what seemed to be comfortable, safe, and familiar place, and never reached the destination God had promised him. He took the first few steps in response to God's invitation, but did not continue on that life-changing journey. Good intention must be translated into actions, and these actions must persevere. If we are to go to Jesus, we must go all the way.

 

To go to Jesus, we must go all the way
PHOTO: To go to Jesus, we must go all the way
Terah stopped half-way to the Promised Land at Haran and did not continue on that life-changing journey. He died in what seemed to be comfortable, safe, and familiar place, and never reached the destination God had promised him. Good intention must be translated into actions, and these actions must persevere. If we are to go to Jesus, we must go all the way.
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Leaving and Arriving: Abraham's Journey of Faith [1]
Have Faith and Trust in God
In contrast, Abraham proceeded with his journey. He "set out" from Haran and "arrived" in Canaan (Genesis 12:4-5). And he did this even though he did not understand God's plan fully. God had said that He would bring Abraham to the Promised Land, but provided no further details. Hebrews 11:8 notes that Abraham "obeyed and went, even though he did not know where he was going". In responding to God's call faithfully, the patriarch exemplified what Hebrews 11:6 says about faith: "Without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek Him." Abraham trusted God that his journey, though risky, would not be in vain. He knew that it was better to travel with God in apparently dangerous circumstances than to sit comfortably at home, living an illusion that would bring him nowhere. As a result, he was greatly blessed.



Have Faith and Trust in God
PHOTO: Have Faith and Trust in God
Abraham "set out" from Haran and "arrived" in Canaan (
Genesis 12:4-5). And he "obeyed and went, even though he did not know where he was going". Abraham trusted God that his journey, though risky, would not be in vain. As a result, he was greatly blessed.
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God seldom discloses all the details of our journey with Him. He may tell us our destination, but not about what lies along the way. Perhaps the details might even frighten us and cause us to abandon the journey.

The presence and promise of God
Abraham also never gave up as he crossed the wilderness into the unknown. When the journey got difficult, what kept him going was the presence and promise of God. This enabled him to finally arrive in Canaan, the land promised to him by God. Abraham must also have known that his journey from Ur to Canaan was not just a physical one, but also a far more important spiritual one. He must have sensed that he was being called to go not only to the Promised Land of God, but also to the God of the Promised Land.



The presence and promise of God
PHOTO: The presence and promise of God
Abraham also never gave up as he crossed the wilderness into the unknown. When the journey got difficult, what kept him going was the presence and promise of God. This enabled him to finally arrive in Canaan, the land promised to him by God.

Three promises:
1. Great nation promise
2. Land promise
3. Seed promise
All Fulfilled!
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Longing for a better country - a heavenly one
Abraham "was looking forward to the city with foundations, whose architect and builder is God" (Hebrews 11:10). He and others who responded to God's call "were longing for a better country - a heavenly one" (Hebrews 11:16); they knew that their final destination was not on earth, but in heaven.



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PHOTO: Longing for a better country - a heavenly one
Abraham "was looking forward to the city with foundations, whose architect and builder is God" (
Hebrews 11:10). He and others who responded to God's call "were longing for a better country - a heavenly one" (Hebrews 11:16); they knew that their final destination was not on earth, but in heaven.
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What does it say about their hopes and fears?
Hopes to go to Jesus

  • Presence and promise of God (Genesis 12:1)
  • Looking forward to the city with foundations, whose architect and builder is God (Hebrews 11:10)
  • Longing for a better country - a heavenly one (Hebrews 11:16)

Fears to go to Jesus

  • Leave our comfort zone
  • Encounter difficulties along the way
  • Fear of what might happen
Like Abraham, we are also 'looking forward to the city with foundations, whose architect and builder is God' (Hebrews 11:10).
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What does it mean to seek first the kingdom of God? [2]
To seek the things of God (especially salvation) as a priority over the things of the world
Jesus said to seek first the kingdom of God in His Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 6:33). The verse's meaning is as direct as it sounds. We are to seek the things of God as a priority over the things of the world. Primarily, it means we are to seek the salvation that is inherent in the kingdom of God because it is of greater value than all the world's riches. Does this mean that we should neglect the reasonable and daily duties that help sustain our lives? Certainly not. But for the Christian, there should be a difference in attitude toward them. If we are taking care of God's business as a priority - seeking His salvation, living in obedience to Him, and sharing the good news of the kingdom with others - then He will take care of our business as He promised - and if that’s the arrangement, where is worrying?



To seek the things of God (especially salvation) as a priority over the things of the world
PHOTO: To seek the things of God (especially salvation) as a priority over the things of the world
Jesus said to seek first the kingdom of God in His Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 6:33). We are to seek the things of God as a priority over the things of the world. Primarily, it means we are to seek the salvation that is inherent in the kingdom of God because it is of greater value than all the world's riches.
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Spend energies in the services of God
But how do we know if we're truly seeking God’s kingdom first? There are questions we can ask ourselves. "Where do I primarily spend my energies? Is all my time and money spent on goods and activities that will certainly perish, or in the services of God - the results of which live on for eternity?" Believers who have learned to truly put God first may then rest in this holy dynamic: "…and all these things will be given to you as well."



Spend energies in the services of God
PHOTO: Spend energies in the services of God
"Where do I primarily spend my energies? Is all my time and money spent on goods and activities that will certainly perish, or in the services of God - the results of which live on for eternity?" Believers who have learned to truly put God first may then rest in this holy dynamic: "…and all these things will be given to you as well."
"Therefore do not concern yourself about tomorrow, for tomorrow will take care of itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." (Matthew 6:24-34)
"For this is what the Lord, the God of Israel, says: ‘The jar of flour will not be used up and the jug of oil will not run dry until the day the Lord sends rain on the land." (1 Kings 17:14)
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God has promised to provide for His own, supplying every need
God has promised to provide for His own, supplying every need (Philippians 4:19), but His idea of what we need is often different from ours, and His timing will only occasionally meet our expectations. For example, we may see our need as riches or advancement, but perhaps God knows that what truly we need is a time of poverty, loss or solitude. When this happens, we are in good company. God loved both Job and Elijah, but He allowed Satan to absolutely pound Job (all under His watchful eye), and He let that evil woman, Jezebel, break the spirit of His own prophet Elijah (Job 1-2; 1 Kings 18-19). In both cases, God followed these trials with restoration and sustenance.

 

God has promised to provide for His own, supplying every need (Philippians 4:19)
PHOTO: God has promised to provide for His own, supplying every need (Philippians 4:19)
God has promised to provide for His own, supplying every need (Philippians 4:19), but His idea of what we need is often different from ours, and His timing will only occasionally meet our expectations. For example, we may see our need as riches or advancement, but perhaps God knows that what truly we need is a time of poverty, loss or solitude. When this happens, we are in good company.
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Focus not on things of this world but upon the things of God's kingdom
These "negative" aspects of the kingdom run counter to a heresy which is gaining ground around the world, the so-called "prosperity" gospel. A growing number of false teachers are gathering followers under the message - "God wants you to be rich!" But that philosophy is not the counsel of the Bible - and it is certainly not the counsel of Matthew 6:33, which is not a formula for gaining wealth. It is a description of how God works. Jesus taught that our focus should be away from this world - its status and its lying allurements - and placed upon the things of God's kingdom.

 

Focus not on things of this world but upon the things of God's kingdom
PHOTO: Focus not on things of this world but upon the things of God's kingdom
A growing number of false teachers are gathering followers under the message - "God wants you to be rich!" But that philosophy is not the counsel of the Bible - and it is certainly not the counsel of Matthew 6:33, which is not a formula for gaining wealth. Jesus taught that our focus should be away from this world - its status and its lying allurements - and placed upon the things of God's kingdom
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Dear Lord, Help us to go all the way to Jesus. Help us to translate our good intentions into actions, and persevere all the way. Please help us to overcome our obstacles and fears to accept the invitation of Jesus to go to the Promised Land. Fulfill our hopes base on Your presence and promise to reach 'the city with foundations, whose architect and builder is God' which is a better country - a heavenly one. Through Lord Jesus Christ we pray. Amen!
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Reflection - Going to Jesus - Hopes and Fears
From the book "Finding rest for the soul", by Robert M. Solomon, Bishop of the Methodist Church in Singapore from 2000 - 2012



Reference
[1] From "Finding rest for the soul" Responding tp Jesus's Invitation in Matthew 11:28-29, Copyright © 2016 by Robert M. Solomon, ISBN 978-1-62707-709-5, Part I: Come to Me, Chapter Two "Going to Jesus: Perils and Possibilities", Page 33-37.

[2] Got Questions Ministries, What does it mean to seek first the kingdom of God?https://www.gotquestions.org/seek-first-kingdom-God.html

[3] D.K. LeVick's "Writing in the Woods", Don’t let a Tragedy – keep you from the ‘Land of Promise’, posted on 17 September 2013, https://dklevick.wordpress.com/2013/09/17/dont-let-a-tragedy-keep-you-from-the-land-of-promise/

[4] Ed and Deb Shapiro, F.E.A.R. False Evidence Appearing Real, https://journal.thriveglobal.com/f-e-a-r-false-evidence-appearing-real-bc34691b5294

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