Monday, May 23, 2011

Moral behind story of the four wives

MY PAPER MONDAY May 23, 2011, PAGE A14, VIEWPOINTS
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By
Geoff Tan, my paper, Mon, May 23, 2011



PHOTO: Moral behind story of the four wives
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MY PAPER MONDAY May 23, 2011, PAGE A14, VIEWPOINTS



PHOTO: Geoff Tan
The writer is a senior vice-president of Singapore Press Holdings’ marketing division.

MY PAPER MONDAY May 23, 2011, PAGE A14, VIEWPOINTS


I AM well aware that Singapore does not encourage bigamy but, nonetheless, there is a lesson to learn from this story about a rich merchant with four wives.

The man loved his fourth wife the most and gave her only the best.

He also loved his third wife, and was always showing her off to his friends.

His second wife was the confidante whom he turned to when he had problems. And his first wife was loyal to him and helped him to maintain his wealth and business, and took care of the household. However, the merchant hardly took notice of her.



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One day, the merchant fell ill and was told that he would soon die. He thought of his life of luxury and told himself: "Now, I have four wives. But when I die, I'll be alone. How lonely I'll be!"

He asked the fourth wife: "I've loved you most and given you the finest clothing. Now that I'm dying, would you follow me and keep me company?"

She replied: "No way!" Then she walked away. That hurt him terribly.



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The man asked his third wife the same thing, but she replied: "Life is so good here! I'm going to remarry when you die!" The merchant's heart sank.

He asked the second wife: "I've always turned to you for help, and you've always helped me. When I die, would you follow me and keep me company?"

She replied: "At most, I can only send you to your grave." The merchant was devastated.

Then, his first wife spoke: "I'll leave with you. I'll follow you wherever you go."



PHOTO: "I'll leave with you. I'll follow you wherever you go."
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She was skinny, and seemed almost as if she was suffering from malnutrition. In tears, the merchant said: "I should have taken better care of you when I could!"

What is the moral of this story? Well, let's consider that we each have four "wives" in our lives. The fourth "wife" is our body. No matter how much time and effort we take to make it look good, it will leave us when we die.

Our third "wife" would be our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, others will take them from us.

The second "wife" is our family and friends. Even if they are always there for us when we are alive, the furthest they can stay with us is up to the grave.



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The first "wife" is, in fact, our soul, the part that will be with us when we die. It is ironic that our soul is often neglected in our pursuit of material goals.

And when we eventually realise how important this first "wife" is, many of us will regret how we have neglected it for most of our lives, and wish we had paid more attention to it.

I'm sure you know now which "wife" you should look after most!

By Geoff Tan, my paper, Mon, May 23, 2011
The writer is a senior vice-president of Singapore Press Holdings' marketing division.



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Bigamy: 重婚 - chóng hūn
Confidante: 女性知己 - nǚ xìng zhī jǐ
Malnutrition: 营养不良 - yíng yǎng bù liáng
Ironic: 令人啼笑皆非 - lìng rén tí xiào jiē fēi



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