Source (book): "He Walks with Me - Devotions for Your Caregiving Journey with God", PART II "JOURNEYING WITH YOURSELF", Chapter 20 "Amanda's story: Trusting in God's sovereignty", Page 57.
Adapted from books by Shelly Beach: Ambushed By Grace: Help and Hope in the Caregiving Journey, and It Is Well with My Soul.
Adapted from books by Shelly Beach: Ambushed By Grace: Help and Hope in the Caregiving Journey, and It Is Well with My Soul.
PHOTO: Amanda and her husband Richie have been caring for a daughter who suffers from brain damage and a mother with dementia.
Dara was born normal. But when she was 14 months old, she had herpes encephalitis (a rare neurological disorder characterized by inflammation of the brain), which put her into a coma for several months. Coming out of it, she lost everything she knew. Like a brand-new baby, she had to re-learn every skill - how to swallow, chew, drink, roll over, sit, walk, use her hands, understand language, and speak.
The encephalitis also caused brain damage, and doctors said she would most likely end up in a vegetable state. When she recovered, they called Dara the "miracle baby".
Since then, Dara has gone through many intervention programmes and therapies. They have helped get her to where she is now - functioning to a large extend, but not independent. She's almost 18, but still lacks the ability to care for herself. She can't read words and can hardly recognise "1" to "10". She remembers her teacher's instructions about going to camp, but can't pack her bag. She knows the sequence for taking a shower, but can't get herself clean. She can almost dress herself, but clothes still get put on the wrong way round or inside out occasionally. She still can't figure out how to tie her shoelaces.
When we're outside, we have to keep her in sight at all times, because she could go missing. She is also very strong, which means you can only take her somewhere with her consent. She loves school and church, but getting her to leave home punctually is a daily challenge: time is an abstract thing to her.
We also have to deal with Dara's sensory issues. In the early months and years, she could not cope with certain types of noises and sounds, like those from a construction site or a loose door panel on the train. Even now, we try not to use the vacuum cleaner when she is home.
She can tell when someone is angry, and gets upset when we are angry with each other at home. Sometimes, when she senses an argument or criticism going on, she will object by throwing a tantrum.
She also throws a tantrum when she is told to go somewhere or is prevented from doing something she likes. She cries, screams, hits her head with her fists, or throws herself onto the floor. It is hard enough at home, but in public - that's when it is hardest. I have learnt to be very thick-skinned when this happens outside, and people can make it worse by watching or offering help.
It became even tougher when Richie's mother came to live with us after his father passed away. Diagnosed with dementia, she grew increasingly unable to take care of herself. Initially, we took her to a day care centre, and I had to help to shower her and manage her toilet visits. After she fell down at home several times, we realised that she needed 24-hour monitoring.
That was when we had to consider placing Mum in a nursing home. It was a difficult choice. If it was just a matter of looking after Mum alone, we probably could have carried on. But with the need to look after Dara at the same time, we had to choose between the two.
We realised that Mum would need to be looked after more and more as time passed, while Dara still had a lot of growing up to do. If we didn't train her now, she would become a burden to her sister and the rest of the family in due time. As long as there was still hope that she could be trained for a vocation and to take care of herself, we would continue to work towards that end.
The struggle was an emotional one - guilt, a sense of being unfilial, and the knowledge that Mum would prefer to stay with us. Her cheerful demeanour and partial mobility made us feel that we were abandoning her. Yet, for all practical purposes, she is getting the attention she needs to keep her safe.
With Dara, sometimes I just feel that I'm at the end of my tether (rope). Like when we cannot get her to understand and comply with our instructions. Like when she repeats, over and over, something she wants to get to do. We struggle to be kind, patient, and understanding. It can also be very frustrating when we have to get moving and Dara just stands her ground - sometimes literally.
We understand that God is sovereign, that He loves Dara, and that He has the best plan for her in mind. But this does not diminish the pain of seeing her try so hard to process simple, everyday things. Of seeing her peers not accepting her and thinking she's weird. Of watching strangers stare.
We've asked ourselves and God many questions. How can we hold on to our faith and hope? Was Dara not healed because we lacked faith? Was it sin on our part? What do we need to do for God to heal her? Is God using her to teach us something? What is her future going to be like? What is going to happen to her when we are gone?
Since day one, we prayed and prayed for Dara's healing. The days became months, then years. There have been times when there was a glimmer of hope, of something extraordinary happening. But mostly, it has been Dara learning bit by bit. In retrospect (review), we realise that she has overcome and achieved so much more than we expected.
I often use stories about Dara to illustrate our relationship with God. For example, we think like Dara when we ask God for something. While waiting for His answer, we fret and worry that He cannot hear us or will not answer us. But that's only because we are not able to process time as God measures it.
It's the same for Dara: next week seems like an eternity to her. Because we cannot see the danger that lurks behind our desire, and because we can only understand so much, we fail to see that God's way is better. Dara has taught us so much.
We have also been blessed by the many angels God sent our way: people who have prayed with us, people who have shown much understanding and grace, and therapists and teachers who cared about Dara - believers and non-believers alike. We know that Dara is loved by many people.
God has shown us that although our family's journey has been fraught with uncertainty and difficulty, we have never been alone. He has brought us back to His Words, which speaks truth and peace to our situation. God is always there.
What Amanda has learnt from caregiving
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Amanda and her husband Richie have been caring for a daughter who suffers from brain damage and a mother with dementia.
Dara was born normal. But when she was 14 months old, she had herpes encephalitis (a rare neurological disorder characterized by inflammation of the brain), which put her into a coma for several months. Coming out of it, she lost everything she knew. Like a brand-new baby, she had to re-learn every skill - how to swallow, chew, drink, roll over, sit, walk, use her hands, understand language, and speak.
The encephalitis also caused brain damage, and doctors said she would most likely end up in a vegetable state. When she recovered, they called Dara the "miracle baby".
Since then, Dara has gone through many intervention programmes and therapies. They have helped get her to where she is now - functioning to a large extend, but not independent. She's almost 18, but still lacks the ability to care for herself. She can't read words and can hardly recognise "1" to "10". She remembers her teacher's instructions about going to camp, but can't pack her bag. She knows the sequence for taking a shower, but can't get herself clean. She can almost dress herself, but clothes still get put on the wrong way round or inside out occasionally. She still can't figure out how to tie her shoelaces.
When we're outside, we have to keep her in sight at all times, because she could go missing. She is also very strong, which means you can only take her somewhere with her consent. She loves school and church, but getting her to leave home punctually is a daily challenge: time is an abstract thing to her.
We also have to deal with Dara's sensory issues. In the early months and years, she could not cope with certain types of noises and sounds, like those from a construction site or a loose door panel on the train. Even now, we try not to use the vacuum cleaner when she is home.
She can tell when someone is angry, and gets upset when we are angry with each other at home. Sometimes, when she senses an argument or criticism going on, she will object by throwing a tantrum.
She also throws a tantrum when she is told to go somewhere or is prevented from doing something she likes. She cries, screams, hits her head with her fists, or throws herself onto the floor. It is hard enough at home, but in public - that's when it is hardest. I have learnt to be very thick-skinned when this happens outside, and people can make it worse by watching or offering help.
It became even tougher when Richie's mother came to live with us after his father passed away. Diagnosed with dementia, she grew increasingly unable to take care of herself. Initially, we took her to a day care centre, and I had to help to shower her and manage her toilet visits. After she fell down at home several times, we realised that she needed 24-hour monitoring.
That was when we had to consider placing Mum in a nursing home. It was a difficult choice. If it was just a matter of looking after Mum alone, we probably could have carried on. But with the need to look after Dara at the same time, we had to choose between the two.
We realised that Mum would need to be looked after more and more as time passed, while Dara still had a lot of growing up to do. If we didn't train her now, she would become a burden to her sister and the rest of the family in due time. As long as there was still hope that she could be trained for a vocation and to take care of herself, we would continue to work towards that end.
The struggle was an emotional one - guilt, a sense of being unfilial, and the knowledge that Mum would prefer to stay with us. Her cheerful demeanour and partial mobility made us feel that we were abandoning her. Yet, for all practical purposes, she is getting the attention she needs to keep her safe.
With Dara, sometimes I just feel that I'm at the end of my tether (rope). Like when we cannot get her to understand and comply with our instructions. Like when she repeats, over and over, something she wants to get to do. We struggle to be kind, patient, and understanding. It can also be very frustrating when we have to get moving and Dara just stands her ground - sometimes literally.
We understand that God is sovereign, that He loves Dara, and that He has the best plan for her in mind. But this does not diminish the pain of seeing her try so hard to process simple, everyday things. Of seeing her peers not accepting her and thinking she's weird. Of watching strangers stare.
We've asked ourselves and God many questions. How can we hold on to our faith and hope? Was Dara not healed because we lacked faith? Was it sin on our part? What do we need to do for God to heal her? Is God using her to teach us something? What is her future going to be like? What is going to happen to her when we are gone?
Since day one, we prayed and prayed for Dara's healing. The days became months, then years. There have been times when there was a glimmer of hope, of something extraordinary happening. But mostly, it has been Dara learning bit by bit. In retrospect (review), we realise that she has overcome and achieved so much more than we expected.
I often use stories about Dara to illustrate our relationship with God. For example, we think like Dara when we ask God for something. While waiting for His answer, we fret and worry that He cannot hear us or will not answer us. But that's only because we are not able to process time as God measures it.
It's the same for Dara: next week seems like an eternity to her. Because we cannot see the danger that lurks behind our desire, and because we can only understand so much, we fail to see that God's way is better. Dara has taught us so much.
We have also been blessed by the many angels God sent our way: people who have prayed with us, people who have shown much understanding and grace, and therapists and teachers who cared about Dara - believers and non-believers alike. We know that Dara is loved by many people.
God has shown us that although our family's journey has been fraught with uncertainty and difficulty, we have never been alone. He has brought us back to His Words, which speaks truth and peace to our situation. God is always there.
What Amanda has learnt from caregiving
- Trust God. No matter what happens, God remains sovereign. When you feel helpless or overwhelmed by your circumstances, know that He is in control and you need not fear the future. God is able to help you if you allow Him to.
- Give grace. The
people you care for may not actually want to have to depend on others;
it is humbling to have to depend on another person for your personal
needs. So offer help with grace; we could be in the same situation ourselves one day.
- Know your limits. As caregivers, we tend to stretch ourselves physically and mentally. Recognise your own limitations, and be willing to seek and receive help, both physical and mental.
- Seek support. Talk to friends to share your problems and frustrations, and to get an objective viewpoint about your feelings. Find friends who can give you emotional and prayer support, who can listen to you without judgment, and who might be able to help you in practical ways. Don't try to do it alone, and don't be afraid to ask for help.
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Amanda and her husband Richie have been caring for a daughter who suffers from brain damage and a mother with dementia.
PHOTO: Amanda and her husband Richie have been caring for a daughter who suffers from brain damage and a mother with dementia.
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Dara was born normal. But when she was 14 months old, she had herpes encephalitis (a rare neurological disorder characterized by inflammation of the brain), which put her into a coma for several months. Coming out of it, she lost everything she knew. Like a brand-new baby, she had to re-learn every skill - how to swallow, chew, drink, roll over, sit, walk, use her hands, understand language, and speak.
The encephalitis also caused brain damage, and doctors said she would most likely end up in a vegetable state. When she recovered, they called Dara the "miracle baby".
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Dara was born normal. But when she was 14 months old, she had herpes encephalitis (a rare neurological disorder characterized by inflammation of the brain), which put her into a coma for several months. Coming out of it, she lost everything she knew. Like a brand-new baby, she had to re-learn every skill - how to swallow, chew, drink, roll over, sit, walk, use her hands, understand language, and speak.
The encephalitis also caused brain damage, and doctors said she would most likely end up in a vegetable state. When she recovered, they called Dara the "miracle baby".
PHOTO: Dara was born normal. But when she was 14 months old, she had herpes encephalitis (a rare neurological disorder characterized by inflammation of the brain), which put her into a coma for several months. Coming out of it, she lost everything she knew. Like a brand-new baby, she had to re-learn every skill - how to swallow, chew, drink, roll over, sit, walk, use her hands, understand language, and speak.
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Since then, Dara has gone through many intervention programmes and therapies. They have helped get her to where she is now - functioning to a large extend, but not independent. She's almost 18, but still lacks the ability to care for herself. She can't read words and can hardly recognise "1" to "10". She remembers her teacher's instructions about going to camp, but can't pack her bag. She knows the sequence for taking a shower, but can't get herself clean. She can almost dress herself, but clothes still get put on the wrong way round or inside out occasionally. She still can't figure out how to tie her shoelaces.
When we're outside, we have to keep her in sight at all times, because she could go missing. She is also very strong, which means you can only take her somewhere with her consent. She loves school and church, but getting her to leave home punctually is a daily challenge: time is an abstract thing to her.
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Since then, Dara has gone through many intervention programmes and therapies. They have helped get her to where she is now - functioning to a large extend, but not independent. She's almost 18, but still lacks the ability to care for herself. She can't read words and can hardly recognise "1" to "10". She remembers her teacher's instructions about going to camp, but can't pack her bag. She knows the sequence for taking a shower, but can't get herself clean. She can almost dress herself, but clothes still get put on the wrong way round or inside out occasionally. She still can't figure out how to tie her shoelaces.
When we're outside, we have to keep her in sight at all times, because she could go missing. She is also very strong, which means you can only take her somewhere with her consent. She loves school and church, but getting her to leave home punctually is a daily challenge: time is an abstract thing to her.
PHOTO: Since then, Dara has gone through many intervention programmes and therapies. They have helped get her to where she is now - functioning to a large extend, but not independent. She's almost 18, but still lacks the ability to care for herself.
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We also have to deal with Dara's sensory issues. In the early months and years, she could not cope with certain types of noises and sounds, like those from a construction site or a loose door panel on the train. Even now, we try not to use the vacuum cleaner when she is home.
She can tell when someone is angry, and gets upset when we are angry with each other at home. Sometimes, when she senses an argument or criticism going on, she will object by throwing a tantrum.
She also throws a tantrum when she is told to go somewhere or is prevented from doing something she likes. She cries, screams, hits her head with her fists, or throws herself onto the floor. It is hard enough at home, but in public - that's when it is hardest. I have learnt to be very thick-skinned when this happens outside, and people can make it worse by watching or offering help.
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We also have to deal with Dara's sensory issues. In the early months and years, she could not cope with certain types of noises and sounds, like those from a construction site or a loose door panel on the train. Even now, we try not to use the vacuum cleaner when she is home.
She can tell when someone is angry, and gets upset when we are angry with each other at home. Sometimes, when she senses an argument or criticism going on, she will object by throwing a tantrum.
She also throws a tantrum when she is told to go somewhere or is prevented from doing something she likes. She cries, screams, hits her head with her fists, or throws herself onto the floor. It is hard enough at home, but in public - that's when it is hardest. I have learnt to be very thick-skinned when this happens outside, and people can make it worse by watching or offering help.
PHOTO: We also have to deal with Dara's sensory issues. In the early months and years, she could not cope with certain types of noises and sounds, like those from a construction site or a loose door panel on the train. Even now, we try not to use the vacuum cleaner when she is home.
She can tell when someone is angry, and gets upset when we are angry with each other at home. Sometimes, when she senses an argument or criticism going on, she will object by throwing a tantrum.
Picture posted by Deepankar Nakarmi on 27 August 2021 - Lucy Dawson, for illustration only
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It became even tougher when Richie's mother came to live with us after his father passed away. Diagnosed with dementia, she grew increasingly unable to take care of herself. Initially, we took her to a day care centre, and I had to help to shower her and manage her toilet visits. After she fell down at home several times, we realised that she needed 24-hour monitoring.
That was when we had to consider placing Mum in a nursing home. It was a difficult choice. If it was just a matter of looking after Mum alone, we probably could have carried on. But with the need to look after Dara at the same time, we had to choose between the two.
We realised that Mum would need to be looked after more and more as time passed, while Dara still had a lot of growing up to do. If we didn't train her now, she would become a burden to her sister and the rest of the family in due time. As long as there was still hope that she could be trained for a vocation and to take care of herself, we would continue to work towards that end.
She can tell when someone is angry, and gets upset when we are angry with each other at home. Sometimes, when she senses an argument or criticism going on, she will object by throwing a tantrum.
Picture posted by Deepankar Nakarmi on 27 August 2021 - Lucy Dawson, for illustration only
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It became even tougher when Richie's mother came to live with us after his father passed away. Diagnosed with dementia, she grew increasingly unable to take care of herself. Initially, we took her to a day care centre, and I had to help to shower her and manage her toilet visits. After she fell down at home several times, we realised that she needed 24-hour monitoring.
That was when we had to consider placing Mum in a nursing home. It was a difficult choice. If it was just a matter of looking after Mum alone, we probably could have carried on. But with the need to look after Dara at the same time, we had to choose between the two.
We realised that Mum would need to be looked after more and more as time passed, while Dara still had a lot of growing up to do. If we didn't train her now, she would become a burden to her sister and the rest of the family in due time. As long as there was still hope that she could be trained for a vocation and to take care of herself, we would continue to work towards that end.
PHOTO: It became even tougher when Richie's mother came to live with us after his father passed away. Diagnosed with dementia, she grew increasingly unable to take care of herself. Initially, we took her to a day care centre, and I had to help to shower her and manage her toilet visits. After she fell down at home several times, we realised that she needed 24-hour monitoring.
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https://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-9964097/Experts-fear-Covid-raise-risk-dementia.html
The struggle was an emotional one - guilt, a sense of being unfilial, and the knowledge that Mum would prefer to stay with us. Her cheerful demeanour and partial mobility made us feel that we were abandoning her. Yet, for all practical purposes, she is getting the attention she needs to keep her safe.
With Dara, sometimes I just feel that I'm at the end of my tether (rope). Like when we cannot get her to understand and comply with our instructions. Like when she repeats, over and over, something she wants to get to do. We struggle to be kind, patient, and understanding. It can also be very frustrating when we have to get moving and Dara just stands her ground - sometimes literally.
We understand that God is sovereign, that He loves Dara, and that He has the best plan for her in mind. But this does not diminish the pain of seeing her try so hard to process simple, everyday things. Of seeing her peers not accepting her and thinking she's weird. Of watching strangers stare.
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https://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-9964097/Experts-fear-Covid-raise-risk-dementia.html
The struggle was an emotional one - guilt, a sense of being unfilial, and the knowledge that Mum would prefer to stay with us. Her cheerful demeanour and partial mobility made us feel that we were abandoning her. Yet, for all practical purposes, she is getting the attention she needs to keep her safe.
With Dara, sometimes I just feel that I'm at the end of my tether (rope). Like when we cannot get her to understand and comply with our instructions. Like when she repeats, over and over, something she wants to get to do. We struggle to be kind, patient, and understanding. It can also be very frustrating when we have to get moving and Dara just stands her ground - sometimes literally.
We understand that God is sovereign, that He loves Dara, and that He has the best plan for her in mind. But this does not diminish the pain of seeing her try so hard to process simple, everyday things. Of seeing her peers not accepting her and thinking she's weird. Of watching strangers stare.
PHOTO: The struggle was an emotional one - guilt, a sense of being unfilial, and the knowledge that Mum would prefer to stay with us. Her cheerful demeanour and partial mobility made us feel that we were abandoning her. Yet, for all practical purposes, she is getting the attention she needs to keep her safe.
With Dara, sometimes I just feel that I'm at the end of my tether (rope). Like when we cannot get her to understand and comply with our instructions. We struggle to be kind, patient, and understanding. It can also be very frustrating when we have to get moving and Dara just stands her ground - sometimes literally.
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We've asked ourselves and God many questions. How can we hold on to our faith and hope? Was Dara not healed because we lacked faith? Was it sin on our part? What do we need to do for God to heal her? Is God using her to teach us something? What is her future going to be like? What is going to happen to her when we are gone?
Since day one, we prayed and prayed for Dara's healing. The days became months, then years. There have been times when there was a glimmer of hope, of something extraordinary happening. But mostly, it has been Dara learning bit by bit. In retrospect (review), we realise that she has overcome and achieved so much more than we expected.
I often use stories about Dara to illustrate our relationship with God. For example, we think like Dara when we ask God for something. While waiting for His answer, we fret and worry that He cannot hear us or will not answer us. But that's only because we are not able to process time as God measures it.
With Dara, sometimes I just feel that I'm at the end of my tether (rope). Like when we cannot get her to understand and comply with our instructions. We struggle to be kind, patient, and understanding. It can also be very frustrating when we have to get moving and Dara just stands her ground - sometimes literally.
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https://cicoa.org/techniques-to-help-calm-redirect-loved-ones-with-dementia/
We've asked ourselves and God many questions. How can we hold on to our faith and hope? Was Dara not healed because we lacked faith? Was it sin on our part? What do we need to do for God to heal her? Is God using her to teach us something? What is her future going to be like? What is going to happen to her when we are gone?
Since day one, we prayed and prayed for Dara's healing. The days became months, then years. There have been times when there was a glimmer of hope, of something extraordinary happening. But mostly, it has been Dara learning bit by bit. In retrospect (review), we realise that she has overcome and achieved so much more than we expected.
I often use stories about Dara to illustrate our relationship with God. For example, we think like Dara when we ask God for something. While waiting for His answer, we fret and worry that He cannot hear us or will not answer us. But that's only because we are not able to process time as God measures it.
PHOTO: We've asked ourselves and God many questions. How can we hold on to our faith and hope? Was Dara not healed because we lacked faith? Was it sin on our part? What do we need to do for God to heal her? Is God using her to teach us something? What is her future going to be like? What is going to happen to her when we are gone?
I often use stories about Dara to illustrate our relationship with God. For example, we think like Dara when we ask God for something. While waiting for His answer, we fret and worry that He cannot hear us or will not answer us. But that's only because we are not able to process time as God measures it.
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It's the same for Dara: next week seems like an eternity to her. Because we cannot see the danger that lurks behind our desire, and because we can only understand so much, we fail to see that God's way is better. Dara has taught us so much.
We have also been blessed by the many angels God sent our way: people who have prayed with us, people who have shown much understanding and grace, and therapists and teachers who cared about Dara - believers and non-believers alike. We know that Dara is loved by many people.
God has shown us that although our family's journey has been fraught with uncertainty and difficulty, we have never been alone. He has brought us back to His Words, which speaks truth and peace to our situation. God is always there.
I often use stories about Dara to illustrate our relationship with God. For example, we think like Dara when we ask God for something. While waiting for His answer, we fret and worry that He cannot hear us or will not answer us. But that's only because we are not able to process time as God measures it.
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It's the same for Dara: next week seems like an eternity to her. Because we cannot see the danger that lurks behind our desire, and because we can only understand so much, we fail to see that God's way is better. Dara has taught us so much.
We have also been blessed by the many angels God sent our way: people who have prayed with us, people who have shown much understanding and grace, and therapists and teachers who cared about Dara - believers and non-believers alike. We know that Dara is loved by many people.
God has shown us that although our family's journey has been fraught with uncertainty and difficulty, we have never been alone. He has brought us back to His Words, which speaks truth and peace to our situation. God is always there.
PHOTO: We have also been blessed by the many angels God sent our way: people who have prayed with us, people who have shown much understanding and grace, and therapists and teachers who cared about Dara - believers and non-believers alike. We know that Dara is loved by many people.
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What Amanda has learnt from caregiving
PHOTO: What Amanda has learnt from caregiving
Trust God. No matter what happens, God remains sovereign. When you feel helpless or overwhelmed by your circumstances, know that He is in control and you need not fear the future. God is able to help you if you allow Him to. . . .
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https://www.thebettermom.com/blog/2015/3/10/even-in-the-fear-trust-god
https://veryfatoldman.blogspot.com/2022/04/reflection-journeying-with-god-finding.html
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What Amanda has learnt from caregiving
- Trust God. No matter what happens, God remains sovereign. When you feel helpless or overwhelmed by your circumstances, know that He is in control and you need not fear the future. God is able to help you if you allow Him to.
- Give grace. The people you care for may not actually want to have to depend on others; it is humbling to have to depend on another person for your personal needs. So offer help with grace; we could be in the same situation ourselves one day.
- Know your limits. As caregivers, we tend to stretch ourselves physically and mentally. Recognise your own limitations, and be willing to seek and receive help, both physical and mental.
- Seek support. Talk to friends to share your problems and frustrations, and to get an objective viewpoint about your feelings. Find friends who can give you emotional and prayer support, who can listen to you without judgment, and who might be able to help you in practical ways. Don't try to do it alone, and don't be afraid to ask for help.
PHOTO: What Amanda has learnt from caregiving
Trust God. No matter what happens, God remains sovereign. When you feel helpless or overwhelmed by your circumstances, know that He is in control and you need not fear the future. God is able to help you if you allow Him to. . . .
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https://www.thebettermom.com/blog/2015/3/10/even-in-the-fear-trust-god
https://veryfatoldman.blogspot.com/2022/04/reflection-journeying-with-god-finding.html
PHOTO: "Dear Lord, may we learn what Amanda has learnt from caregiving of her daughter Dara, and her mother who has dementia.
May we learn to trust You no matter what happens and that You remain sovereign. When we feel helpless or overwhelmed by our circumstances, may we know that You are in control and we need not fear the future.
Lord, it humbling to depend on others for our personal needs. May we offer help with grace, for we could be in the same situation ourselves one day.
Help us to know our limits. We may tend to stretch ourselves physically and mentally. We pray that we can recognise our own limitations, and be willing to seek and receive help, both physical and mental.
May we be able to seek support by talking to friends to share our problems and frustrations, and to get an objective viewpoint about our feelings. May we be able to find friends who can give us emotional and prayer support, who can listen to us without judgment, and who might be able to help us in practical ways. We pray that we have the courage to ask for help, as we cannot do everything alone.
Through Lord Jesus Christ we pray. Amen!"
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May we learn to trust You no matter what happens and that You remain sovereign. When we feel helpless or overwhelmed by our circumstances, may we know that You are in control and we need not fear the future.
Lord, it humbling to depend on others for our personal needs. May we offer help with grace, for we could be in the same situation ourselves one day.
Help us to know our limits. We may tend to stretch ourselves physically and mentally. We pray that we can recognise our own limitations, and be willing to seek and receive help, both physical and mental.
May we be able to seek support by talking to friends to share our problems and frustrations, and to get an objective viewpoint about our feelings. May we be able to find friends who can give us emotional and prayer support, who can listen to us without judgment, and who might be able to help us in practical ways. We pray that we have the courage to ask for help, as we cannot do everything alone.
Through Lord Jesus Christ we pray. Amen!"
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Reflection - Journeying with yourself - Amanda's story: Trusting in God's sovereignty
Source (book): "He Walks with Me - Devotions for Your Caregiving Journey with God", PART II "JOURNEYING WITH YOURSELF", Chapter 20 "Amanda's story: Trusting in God's sovereignty", Page 57.
Adapted from books by Shelly Beach: Ambushed By Grace: Help and Hope in the Caregiving Journey, and It Is Well with My Soul.
Source (book): "He Walks with Me - Devotions for Your Caregiving Journey with God", PART II "JOURNEYING WITH YOURSELF", Chapter 20 "Amanda's story: Trusting in God's sovereignty", Page 57.
Adapted from books by Shelly Beach: Ambushed By Grace: Help and Hope in the Caregiving Journey, and It Is Well with My Soul.
Other Books (Links)
"Faithful to the end", A Preacher's Exposition of 2 Timothy, @ 2014 by Robert M. Solomon
Reflection - Faithful to the end (Links)
https://veryfatoldman.blogspot.com/2017/06/reflection-faithful-to-end-links.html
"Finding rest for the soul" Responding to Jesus' Invitation in Matthew 11:28-29, © 2016 by Robert M. Solomon
Reflection - Finding rest for the soul (Links)
https://veryfatoldman.blogspot.com/2018/10/reflection-finding-rest-for-soul-links.html
"God in Pursuit" Lessons from the Book of Jonah, © 2016 by Robert M. Solomon
Reflection - God in Pursuit (Links) - PART I-III, posted on Saturday, 10 August 2019
https://veryfatoldman.blogspot.com/2019/08/reflection-god-in-pursuit-links-part-i.html
"God in Pursuit" Lessons from the Book of Jonah, © 2016 by Robert M. Solomon
Reflection - God in Pursuit (Links) - PART IV, posted on Saturday, 10 August 2019
https://veryfatoldman.blogspot.com/2019/08/reflection-god-in-pursuit-links-part-iv.html
"Songs of Christmas", The Stories and Significance of 20 Well-Loved Carols, © 2018 by Robert M. Solomon
Reflection - Songs of Christmas (Links), posted on Friday, 24 April 2020
https://veryfatoldman.blogspot.com/2020/04/reflection-songs-of-christmas-links.html
Reflection - Faithful to the end (Links)
https://veryfatoldman.blogspot.com/2017/06/reflection-faithful-to-end-links.html
"Finding rest for the soul" Responding to Jesus' Invitation in Matthew 11:28-29, © 2016 by Robert M. Solomon
Reflection - Finding rest for the soul (Links)
https://veryfatoldman.blogspot.com/2018/10/reflection-finding-rest-for-soul-links.html
"God in Pursuit" Lessons from the Book of Jonah, © 2016 by Robert M. Solomon
Reflection - God in Pursuit (Links) - PART I-III, posted on Saturday, 10 August 2019
https://veryfatoldman.blogspot.com/2019/08/reflection-god-in-pursuit-links-part-i.html
"God in Pursuit" Lessons from the Book of Jonah, © 2016 by Robert M. Solomon
Reflection - God in Pursuit (Links) - PART IV, posted on Saturday, 10 August 2019
https://veryfatoldman.blogspot.com/2019/08/reflection-god-in-pursuit-links-part-iv.html
"Songs of Christmas", The Stories and Significance of 20 Well-Loved Carols, © 2018 by Robert M. Solomon
Reflection - Songs of Christmas (Links), posted on Friday, 24 April 2020
https://veryfatoldman.blogspot.com/2020/04/reflection-songs-of-christmas-links.html
"Growing Old Gracefully", Following Jesus to the End, © 2019 by Robert M. Solomon
Reflection - Growing Old Gracefully, Part I - III (Links), posted on Wednesday, 09 December 2020
https://veryfatoldman.blogspot.com/2020/12/reflection-growing-old-gracefully-part.html
Reflection - Growing Old Gracefully, Part IV - V (Links), posted on Thursday, 22 April 2021
https://veryfatoldman.blogspot.com/2020/12/reflection-growing-old-gracefully-part_9.html
"Teach Us to Number Our Days", © 2008 by David Roper
Reflection - Number Our Days, Chapter 1 - 40 (Links), posted on Tuesday, 16 November 2021
https://veryfatoldman.blogspot.com/2021/11/reflection-number-our-days-chapter-1-40.html
Reflection - Number Our Days, Chapter 41 - 64 (Links), posted on Wednesday, 16 March 2022
https://veryfatoldman.blogspot.com/2022/03/reflection-number-our-days-chapter-41.html
Reference
[1] From "He Walks with Me - Devotions for Your Caregiving Journey with God", Copyright © 2018 by Our Daily Bread Ministries, PART II "JOURNEYING WITH YOURSELF", Chapter 20 "Amanda's story: Trusting in God's sovereignty", Page 57-61.
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