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By Ho Guo Xiong, The New Paper, 20 February 2022 at 02:00 pm
By Ho Guo Xiong, The New Paper, 20 February 2022 at 02:00 pm
PHOTO: Actress Rui En (瑞恩, Ruì ēn) has entertained us with many of her works. Known for her cool, steely image and for being fiercely private, Rui En surprised fans when she started her own Instagram account (@wilderseas29) in August 2021.
PHOTO: WILDERSEAS29/INSTAGRAM
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https://tnp.straitstimes.com/entertainment/tv/life-lessons-actress-rui-en
These therapeutic, soul-enriching words are worth remembering always.
Since its inception, Rui En has not only shown a more personal and vulnerable side to her, but has also been advocating for issues near and dear to her heart.
These issues include mental health, finding self-worth and many other life lessons that would be helpful for us, especially during this challenging Covid-19 period.
On starting social media
In her first post, she revealed that for privacy reasons, she was “vehemently against the idea of having social media”. However, due to the personal upheavals she faced during the Covid period, she decided to jump onto social media as “a major regret would be having a platform but not using it to help others”.
Consequently, Rui En has been using her platform to share tidbits of her life to connect with fans as well as to champion mental health issues.
Posted by wilderseas29 on 05 August 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CSLa0nmpAyR/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=8086f3b5-5e38-4ce5-8824-c5d85b7e2fd0
On finding gratitude during Covid-19
Covid-19 hasn’t been kind to everyone, Rui En included. While it can be difficult to find the silver lining through these difficult times, Rui En shares that “focusing on gratitude rather than the things we don’t have helps”. Besides doing up a Gratitude List each day, Rui En is thankful to have had the time to explore and rediscover various aspects of Singapore that she hasn’t been able to before.
Posted by wilderseas29 on 06 August 2021
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https://tnp.straitstimes.com/entertainment/tv/life-lessons-actress-rui-en
These therapeutic, soul-enriching words are worth remembering always.
Since its inception, Rui En has not only shown a more personal and vulnerable side to her, but has also been advocating for issues near and dear to her heart.
These issues include mental health, finding self-worth and many other life lessons that would be helpful for us, especially during this challenging Covid-19 period.
On starting social media
In her first post, she revealed that for privacy reasons, she was “vehemently against the idea of having social media”. However, due to the personal upheavals she faced during the Covid period, she decided to jump onto social media as “a major regret would be having a platform but not using it to help others”.
Consequently, Rui En has been using her platform to share tidbits of her life to connect with fans as well as to champion mental health issues.
Posted by wilderseas29 on 05 August 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CSLa0nmpAyR/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=8086f3b5-5e38-4ce5-8824-c5d85b7e2fd0
On finding gratitude during Covid-19
Covid-19 hasn’t been kind to everyone, Rui En included. While it can be difficult to find the silver lining through these difficult times, Rui En shares that “focusing on gratitude rather than the things we don’t have helps”. Besides doing up a Gratitude List each day, Rui En is thankful to have had the time to explore and rediscover various aspects of Singapore that she hasn’t been able to before.
Posted by wilderseas29 on 06 August 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CSOGPTaJhAC/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=b3dd9834-382d-4c7d-926c-29f227af159f
PHOTO: Truth is, I'm such a creature of habit that I would never have explored all these places if not for Phase 2 HA #1 and #2. Though it's admittedly easier to say than do, focusing on gratitude rather than the things we don't have helps. I try also to do a Gratitude List daily, being alive is always #1, because that wasn't always a given for me. Pls leave suggestions in comments for the next LTC destination!
*photos taken before current Phase 2 HA, all safety measures were complied with
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On overthinking and assuming the worst
In this post, Rui En shared a personal story about her dad being hospitalised two days before starting her Instagram. In it, she detailed how her dad suffered from unexplained blood loss and how she feared it could be colon cancer as his father passed away from it.
The results turned out to be all clear and Rui En’s worries were unfounded. The event taught her a lesson though: “I struggle SO much with living in the present, I basically just go straight to worst case scenario, and this has been an incredible reminder.”
Posted by wilderseas29 on 07 August 2021
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*photos taken before current Phase 2 HA, all safety measures were complied with
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https://www.instagram.com/p/CSOGPTaJhAC/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=b3dd9834-382d-4c7d-926c-29f227af159f
On overthinking and assuming the worst
In this post, Rui En shared a personal story about her dad being hospitalised two days before starting her Instagram. In it, she detailed how her dad suffered from unexplained blood loss and how she feared it could be colon cancer as his father passed away from it.
The results turned out to be all clear and Rui En’s worries were unfounded. The event taught her a lesson though: “I struggle SO much with living in the present, I basically just go straight to worst case scenario, and this has been an incredible reminder.”
Posted by wilderseas29 on 07 August 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CSRpeRaJxay/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=bd49013c-7650-49e5-837b-56b1c6c1f2ba
PHOTO: " . . . I struggle SO much with living in the present, I basically just go straight to worst case scenario, and this has been an incredible reminder.
All the love I've received and the good news has left me so overjoyed, machiam my birthday like that! Looking forward to celebrating the nation's birthday with all of you guys! HUAT AH!"
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On the importance of mental health and talking about it
As a public figure, Rui En related that “there is an enduring school of thought that public figures should be mentally invincible and deserve to have all forms of abuse thrown their way, no matter how heinous.”
However, she shared that she too, suffers from feelings of unworthiness from time to time: “Not feeling that I’m enough. This is something that plagues me even to this day. There are days I feel like a warrior, taking no prisoners, but there are days I lose that battle decisively and miserably.”
She concludes that it is only human to feel that way, and hopes that her being open and candid about this can help others feel less alone.
“By no means am I complaining about my position or being ungrateful. I share all this, because just like how I was comforted by Osaka and Biles being human, I too hope that by being open about the stuff I struggle with, that it helps some people feel less alone. You’re never alone.”
Posted by wilderseas29 on 29 August 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CTJ5OF5pFNp/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=09d244c5-8cab-4139-b45b-b68b54ed6146
All the love I've received and the good news has left me so overjoyed, machiam my birthday like that! Looking forward to celebrating the nation's birthday with all of you guys! HUAT AH!"
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On the importance of mental health and talking about it
As a public figure, Rui En related that “there is an enduring school of thought that public figures should be mentally invincible and deserve to have all forms of abuse thrown their way, no matter how heinous.”
However, she shared that she too, suffers from feelings of unworthiness from time to time: “Not feeling that I’m enough. This is something that plagues me even to this day. There are days I feel like a warrior, taking no prisoners, but there are days I lose that battle decisively and miserably.”
She concludes that it is only human to feel that way, and hopes that her being open and candid about this can help others feel less alone.
“By no means am I complaining about my position or being ungrateful. I share all this, because just like how I was comforted by Osaka and Biles being human, I too hope that by being open about the stuff I struggle with, that it helps some people feel less alone. You’re never alone.”
Posted by wilderseas29 on 29 August 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CTJ5OF5pFNp/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=09d244c5-8cab-4139-b45b-b68b54ed6146
PHOTO: " . . There are days I feel like a warrior, taking no prisoners, but there are days I lose that battle decisively and miserably.
By no means am I complaining about my position or being ungrateful. I share all this, because just like how I was comforted by Osaka and Biles being human, I too hope that by being open about the stuff I struggle with, that it helps some people feel less alone.
You're never alone."
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On the human condition and how she plays different characters
Have you ever wondered how actors play such diverse characters that have no seeming connection to how they are and live in real life? A junior posed this question to Rui En and her response was: “With every role that I’ve played, even if I personally could not stand the role, there was invariably something I could identify with. Playing a bimbotic heiress? I could identify with the vanity, because after all, what other profession cultivates it as much? A childlike simpleton roaming the streets of Chinatown? All of us have an inner child that we’ve simply learned with time how to obscure.”
She added: “I believe the reason why actors become better with age, is empathy. Pain, joy, grief, contentment etc. are the best acting teachers. For even if you differ greatly in views, ultimately what ties us all together is the human condition.”
Posted by wilderseas29 on 01 September 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CTRBBQcpZWy/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=557a0166-8dc0-4676-afd5-19b1f3478f32
On setting boundaries
Boundaries are set to protect oneself while trying to navigate the confusing world. For Rui En, she’s been trying to relearn how to set proper boundaries. “A process I probably will be on for the rest of my life, is learning how to be gentle with myself. When I was younger I came to the conclusion that in order to be successful I had to be hard on myself. What I didn’t realize was how destructive that can be, and how far I would take it. Am slowly unlearning this.”
She went on to call out the double standards of setting boundaries, a trait celebrated in men but not in females. “It’s always been especially apparent to me, that whatever gets a female called difficult, is sometimes celebrated in men as “character”. Then finally, we can choose not to engage and walk away.”
“Anyone who calls setting boundaries being “too sensitive” and “overreacting” is invalidating your emotions and gaslighting you. The latter term is a fascinating one, will dedicate another post to that later. Most people don’t even realize when they are being gaslit, but it happens alot.”
At the end, she made her stance on setting boundaries loud and clear. “Peace of mind and joy is not always a given nowadays. I will fight to the bone to protect mine. And that, is OK.”
Posted by wilderseas29 on 19 September 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CT_8nRjJw2T/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=bf9ce190-a50e-4ab4-a52c-9eafc9df0cac
On gaslighting
As a follow-up to the previous post on boundaries, Rui En was compelled to shed light about gaslighting as a “form of manipulation”. She further stated that there are many types and ways one can gaslight or be gaslighted.
So for anyone who feels like they are being gaslit in a relationship, Rui En has this to say: “Believe this, you and your emotions are more than worthy enough for anyone to take seriously.”
“My joy is something that I protect fiercely. The same joy that u see here all up in those space buns!”
Posted by wilderseas29 on 26 September 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CUR98AJp-YF/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=98212f45-d6d8-4517-a4fc-a71e0efb21bd
By no means am I complaining about my position or being ungrateful. I share all this, because just like how I was comforted by Osaka and Biles being human, I too hope that by being open about the stuff I struggle with, that it helps some people feel less alone.
You're never alone."
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On the human condition and how she plays different characters
Have you ever wondered how actors play such diverse characters that have no seeming connection to how they are and live in real life? A junior posed this question to Rui En and her response was: “With every role that I’ve played, even if I personally could not stand the role, there was invariably something I could identify with. Playing a bimbotic heiress? I could identify with the vanity, because after all, what other profession cultivates it as much? A childlike simpleton roaming the streets of Chinatown? All of us have an inner child that we’ve simply learned with time how to obscure.”
She added: “I believe the reason why actors become better with age, is empathy. Pain, joy, grief, contentment etc. are the best acting teachers. For even if you differ greatly in views, ultimately what ties us all together is the human condition.”
Posted by wilderseas29 on 01 September 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CTRBBQcpZWy/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=557a0166-8dc0-4676-afd5-19b1f3478f32
On setting boundaries
Boundaries are set to protect oneself while trying to navigate the confusing world. For Rui En, she’s been trying to relearn how to set proper boundaries. “A process I probably will be on for the rest of my life, is learning how to be gentle with myself. When I was younger I came to the conclusion that in order to be successful I had to be hard on myself. What I didn’t realize was how destructive that can be, and how far I would take it. Am slowly unlearning this.”
She went on to call out the double standards of setting boundaries, a trait celebrated in men but not in females. “It’s always been especially apparent to me, that whatever gets a female called difficult, is sometimes celebrated in men as “character”. Then finally, we can choose not to engage and walk away.”
“Anyone who calls setting boundaries being “too sensitive” and “overreacting” is invalidating your emotions and gaslighting you. The latter term is a fascinating one, will dedicate another post to that later. Most people don’t even realize when they are being gaslit, but it happens alot.”
At the end, she made her stance on setting boundaries loud and clear. “Peace of mind and joy is not always a given nowadays. I will fight to the bone to protect mine. And that, is OK.”
Posted by wilderseas29 on 19 September 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CT_8nRjJw2T/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=bf9ce190-a50e-4ab4-a52c-9eafc9df0cac
On gaslighting
As a follow-up to the previous post on boundaries, Rui En was compelled to shed light about gaslighting as a “form of manipulation”. She further stated that there are many types and ways one can gaslight or be gaslighted.
So for anyone who feels like they are being gaslit in a relationship, Rui En has this to say: “Believe this, you and your emotions are more than worthy enough for anyone to take seriously.”
“My joy is something that I protect fiercely. The same joy that u see here all up in those space buns!”
Posted by wilderseas29 on 26 September 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CUR98AJp-YF/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=98212f45-d6d8-4517-a4fc-a71e0efb21bd
On accepting when things don't go according to plans
When things go wrong or not according to expectations, it is easy to blame yourself. This is a reflex action that Rui En has lived with and is consciously trying to unlearn.
“The one thing that made a huge difference for me was differentiating between things that I could and couldn’t control. There are many many many things we can’t control. Sit down and think about it. Many of us have the delusion that we are the “masters of our own fates”. Acceptance that I am certainly not in control of many things, but that God is, has been incredibly liberating. It means that if I know I tried my best and anything goes belly up, I don’t have to beat myself up about it.
Unlearning a reflex action is a daily process. Somedays I win and somedays I don’t. But it’s ok. Am simply happy to be relatively free of the gang fights in my head.”
Posted by wilderseas29 on 03 October 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CUj_lM5J2bb/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=d3a5ab78-2ef3-453b-af4f-7ce96877ce06
On self-love
As Rui En said it best: “Self-love. Easier said than done, as most worthwhile things in life are.”
Rui En, however, encouraged all of us to work on practising self-love with the simple activity of looking in the mirror and giving ourselves verbal praise.
“I tell you, the sheer awkwardness and discomfort I feel doing something so simple, says alot about where I’m at in this journey. Sometimes I can’t even maintain eye contact. With myself! However I’m determined to persevere. I try to do it during my rather extensive twice a day skincare routine 🤣
Would you guys try this with me so I’m not alone? Let’s do it together, report back in comments how it went for you. Push thru the cringe, I feel you. We’ll get there!”
Posted by wilderseas29 on 24 October 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CVaA6NZpYWc/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=bfe3fdd7-6eb3-43c7-a294-5a78f813e475
On the emptiness of fame
To an outsider, being a celeb seems glamorous, with thousands and millions adoring and clamouring for you. But as Rui En revealed, fame is empty.
“Whether the reason was that I grew up in a home where everyday felt like a battle, or whatever other deep-seated origin, for as long as I remember, I was plagued by feelings of unworthiness. When I got discovered and signed, I proceeded to pursue fame in an attempt to negate those feelings. If everybody loved me, then I must be wrong about myself, right? What I discovered was that fame didn’t alleviate those feelings, conversely, it created an even bigger black hole of emptiness. Have you ever been at a club, surrounded by hordes of people having the best time, yet felt completely alone? That’s exactly what it feels like.”
Rui En then shared a possible explanation from an article she read and how her mirror exercise (from the previous point) have helped.
“The closest explanation I’ve come across is by Chris Hayes of The New Yorker. He explains that humans seek recognition. The caveat being that recognition can only come from someone that we value and respect. So fame in other words, can only give us attention, since it comes from people we don’t know. Yet it “feels close enough to real human connection that we cannot but pursue it in ever more compulsive ways”.
So yes, it is entirely possible to be loved by many strangers yet feel empty and unworthy. I don’t need to list the icons who have succumbed to this. I must report back that the mirror exercise has been quite life-changing for me because saying affirmations aloud somehow quiets the scolding, critical voice in my head. So happy to hear that many are trying it together with me for the first time!”
Posted by wilderseas29 on 31 October 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CVsFd0rpZUx/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=ee7ff206-65c7-424e-b624-411f66b2c460
On having empathy
“For a long time, I looked at roles as either good (讨喜 Tǎo xǐ) or bad (惹人讨厌 Rě rén tǎo yàn), black and white.” This was a sentiment that Rui En held for a long time until she realised that “hurt people hurt people”, and the need for empathy to become better as both an actress and a person.
“Sometimes, I see actors casted in the “bad” roles try their best to mitigate the nastiness. They say they can’t relate, how can someone be so awful? The truth is, humans are rarely simply baddies or goodies. If only life were that simple. If we are brutally honest with ourselves, we are all often both, simultaneously.”
Posted by wilderseas29 on 07 November 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CV-GeWdpsG6/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=8bac6831-8146-4699-ab55-46c3d7932170
On uplifting other women in the industry
A veteran like Rui En would have seen and encountered the good, the bad and the ugly of the entertainment industry. In this post, she chose to highlight a predicament that females in the industry face, that she is vehemently against: the pitting of females against one another.
“In the entertainment industry, right from when we step in, we are advised to see our peers of the same sex as rivals in a life or death battle. That has never sat well with me. Yes, the Singapore market is small, but that doesn’t mean we have to be petty, selfish and step on others to get ahead.
In a world of women being pitted against each other even outside of the industry, I choose to rise above that to uplift other women.”
Rui En went on to dedicate a short yet sweet message of support to junior Chantalle Ng.
“妹妹,
Resist with all your strength being changed, chewed up and spit out by this beast of an industry. Stay you. The you with all the sunlight, innocence and joy.
Your 姐姐 will always be here for you.
Love,
En”
Posted by wilderseas29 on 04 December 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CXD01s6Ju1U/?utm_source=ig_embed&utm_campaign=embed_video_watch_again
On breaking bad thought habits
To put it simply, Rui En believes that we are more than our thoughts. This is because our thoughts, through socialisation, can often be a detriment to who we are and what we can be. Learning how to untangle that will help us become greater, self-actualised versions of who we are.
“I’m not sure why it took me this long to learn something so simple. I am learning that I am not my thoughts, and how to observe my thoughts as though they were someone else’s.
We ALL have inappropriate, scary, negative, even evil thoughts that bring about emotions. We are conditioned by the world to accept our thoughts as the truth and that they must say something about who we are. Nope, not even close. Our thoughts are shaped by our childhood traumas, biases, world views, past experiences etc.
Understanding this very simple concept has been transformational. The tricky part for me has been trying to detach and to watch them come and go, no matter how negative. The most challenging part is to make choices beyond those thoughts and to allow the emotions attached to those thoughts to happen without reacting to them.”
Posted by wilderseas29 on 23 January 2022
https://www.instagram.com/p/CZEYsYzpI-w/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=6d45a812-7159-4b30-b920-a9dc4079f121
On taking a leap of faith
At the start of this post, Rui En shared this quote: “Fear does not prevent death. It prevents life. — Naguib Mahfouz.”
The quote became central to how Rui En viewed her foray to start social media, where there were many naysayers persuading her to stay off. “When you are a public figure, there is a constant barrage of (mostly) well-intentioned opinions sent your way. I should have hit a certain number earlier, my pics aren’t “exciting” enough, I’m posting too many stories, people aren’t going to be able to accept me being so unmysterious, I’m not high fashion enough, if I post about mental health there would be a stigma attached etc. I didn’t make any of these up.”
Rui En reflected that after two decades as a public figure, she still needs to shake off these doubts, both internally and externally. The result?
“But look at what I’ve gotten from taking that step of faith. New friends and collaborators, access to ALL the silly cat videos I could ever want for the rest of my life, but most crucially, the opportunity to help some people feel less alone.”
Now here’s to Rui En living her best social media life.
Posted by wilderseas29 on 14 November 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CWQInjnpsm5/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=3dcaa8f3-02c8-45fb-b118-a6ab075dc144
“The one thing that made a huge difference for me was differentiating between things that I could and couldn’t control. There are many many many things we can’t control. Sit down and think about it. Many of us have the delusion that we are the “masters of our own fates”. Acceptance that I am certainly not in control of many things, but that God is, has been incredibly liberating. It means that if I know I tried my best and anything goes belly up, I don’t have to beat myself up about it.
Unlearning a reflex action is a daily process. Somedays I win and somedays I don’t. But it’s ok. Am simply happy to be relatively free of the gang fights in my head.”
Posted by wilderseas29 on 03 October 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CUj_lM5J2bb/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=d3a5ab78-2ef3-453b-af4f-7ce96877ce06
On self-love
As Rui En said it best: “Self-love. Easier said than done, as most worthwhile things in life are.”
Rui En, however, encouraged all of us to work on practising self-love with the simple activity of looking in the mirror and giving ourselves verbal praise.
“I tell you, the sheer awkwardness and discomfort I feel doing something so simple, says alot about where I’m at in this journey. Sometimes I can’t even maintain eye contact. With myself! However I’m determined to persevere. I try to do it during my rather extensive twice a day skincare routine 🤣
Would you guys try this with me so I’m not alone? Let’s do it together, report back in comments how it went for you. Push thru the cringe, I feel you. We’ll get there!”
Posted by wilderseas29 on 24 October 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CVaA6NZpYWc/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=bfe3fdd7-6eb3-43c7-a294-5a78f813e475
On the emptiness of fame
To an outsider, being a celeb seems glamorous, with thousands and millions adoring and clamouring for you. But as Rui En revealed, fame is empty.
“Whether the reason was that I grew up in a home where everyday felt like a battle, or whatever other deep-seated origin, for as long as I remember, I was plagued by feelings of unworthiness. When I got discovered and signed, I proceeded to pursue fame in an attempt to negate those feelings. If everybody loved me, then I must be wrong about myself, right? What I discovered was that fame didn’t alleviate those feelings, conversely, it created an even bigger black hole of emptiness. Have you ever been at a club, surrounded by hordes of people having the best time, yet felt completely alone? That’s exactly what it feels like.”
Rui En then shared a possible explanation from an article she read and how her mirror exercise (from the previous point) have helped.
“The closest explanation I’ve come across is by Chris Hayes of The New Yorker. He explains that humans seek recognition. The caveat being that recognition can only come from someone that we value and respect. So fame in other words, can only give us attention, since it comes from people we don’t know. Yet it “feels close enough to real human connection that we cannot but pursue it in ever more compulsive ways”.
So yes, it is entirely possible to be loved by many strangers yet feel empty and unworthy. I don’t need to list the icons who have succumbed to this. I must report back that the mirror exercise has been quite life-changing for me because saying affirmations aloud somehow quiets the scolding, critical voice in my head. So happy to hear that many are trying it together with me for the first time!”
Posted by wilderseas29 on 31 October 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CVsFd0rpZUx/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=ee7ff206-65c7-424e-b624-411f66b2c460
On having empathy
“For a long time, I looked at roles as either good (讨喜 Tǎo xǐ) or bad (惹人讨厌 Rě rén tǎo yàn), black and white.” This was a sentiment that Rui En held for a long time until she realised that “hurt people hurt people”, and the need for empathy to become better as both an actress and a person.
“Sometimes, I see actors casted in the “bad” roles try their best to mitigate the nastiness. They say they can’t relate, how can someone be so awful? The truth is, humans are rarely simply baddies or goodies. If only life were that simple. If we are brutally honest with ourselves, we are all often both, simultaneously.”
Posted by wilderseas29 on 07 November 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CV-GeWdpsG6/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=8bac6831-8146-4699-ab55-46c3d7932170
On uplifting other women in the industry
A veteran like Rui En would have seen and encountered the good, the bad and the ugly of the entertainment industry. In this post, she chose to highlight a predicament that females in the industry face, that she is vehemently against: the pitting of females against one another.
“In the entertainment industry, right from when we step in, we are advised to see our peers of the same sex as rivals in a life or death battle. That has never sat well with me. Yes, the Singapore market is small, but that doesn’t mean we have to be petty, selfish and step on others to get ahead.
In a world of women being pitted against each other even outside of the industry, I choose to rise above that to uplift other women.”
Rui En went on to dedicate a short yet sweet message of support to junior Chantalle Ng.
“妹妹,
Resist with all your strength being changed, chewed up and spit out by this beast of an industry. Stay you. The you with all the sunlight, innocence and joy.
Your 姐姐 will always be here for you.
Love,
En”
Posted by wilderseas29 on 04 December 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CXD01s6Ju1U/?utm_source=ig_embed&utm_campaign=embed_video_watch_again
On breaking bad thought habits
To put it simply, Rui En believes that we are more than our thoughts. This is because our thoughts, through socialisation, can often be a detriment to who we are and what we can be. Learning how to untangle that will help us become greater, self-actualised versions of who we are.
“I’m not sure why it took me this long to learn something so simple. I am learning that I am not my thoughts, and how to observe my thoughts as though they were someone else’s.
We ALL have inappropriate, scary, negative, even evil thoughts that bring about emotions. We are conditioned by the world to accept our thoughts as the truth and that they must say something about who we are. Nope, not even close. Our thoughts are shaped by our childhood traumas, biases, world views, past experiences etc.
Understanding this very simple concept has been transformational. The tricky part for me has been trying to detach and to watch them come and go, no matter how negative. The most challenging part is to make choices beyond those thoughts and to allow the emotions attached to those thoughts to happen without reacting to them.”
Posted by wilderseas29 on 23 January 2022
https://www.instagram.com/p/CZEYsYzpI-w/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=6d45a812-7159-4b30-b920-a9dc4079f121
On taking a leap of faith
At the start of this post, Rui En shared this quote: “Fear does not prevent death. It prevents life. — Naguib Mahfouz.”
The quote became central to how Rui En viewed her foray to start social media, where there were many naysayers persuading her to stay off. “When you are a public figure, there is a constant barrage of (mostly) well-intentioned opinions sent your way. I should have hit a certain number earlier, my pics aren’t “exciting” enough, I’m posting too many stories, people aren’t going to be able to accept me being so unmysterious, I’m not high fashion enough, if I post about mental health there would be a stigma attached etc. I didn’t make any of these up.”
Rui En reflected that after two decades as a public figure, she still needs to shake off these doubts, both internally and externally. The result?
“But look at what I’ve gotten from taking that step of faith. New friends and collaborators, access to ALL the silly cat videos I could ever want for the rest of my life, but most crucially, the opportunity to help some people feel less alone.”
Now here’s to Rui En living her best social media life.
Posted by wilderseas29 on 14 November 2021
https://www.instagram.com/p/CWQInjnpsm5/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=3dcaa8f3-02c8-45fb-b118-a6ab075dc144
PHOTO: Rui En’s Dad Hospitalised After Suffering A Heart Attack In New Zealand
"At 7 plus on the 28th, while on set doing a night scene, I got a text from my dad in New Zealand. He calmly explained his symptoms and informed me that he was having a heart attack. That he had 3 or 4 similar attacks in the past few days but he didn't inform anyone. Ambulance was on the way. He asked me to begin praying.” wrote Rui En in the first part of her caption.
Picture posted by Toh Ziyi, 8 Days on 31 March 2021 at 15:00
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"At 7 plus on the 28th, while on set doing a night scene, I got a text from my dad in New Zealand. He calmly explained his symptoms and informed me that he was having a heart attack. That he had 3 or 4 similar attacks in the past few days but he didn't inform anyone. Ambulance was on the way. He asked me to begin praying.” wrote Rui En in the first part of her caption.
Picture posted by Toh Ziyi, 8 Days on 31 March 2021 at 15:00
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https://www.8days.sg/entertainment/asian/lawrence-yan-left-deputy-director-job-tvb-salary-quit-15513288
PHOTO: Rui En (瑞恩, Ruì ēn) shared this quote: “Fear does not prevent death. It prevents life. — Naguib Mahfouz.”
“But look at what I’ve gotten from taking that step of faith. . . . most crucially, the opportunity to help some people feel less alone.”
Now here’s to Rui En living her best social media life.
Photoshop from picture posted by imgur on Sunday, 05 December 2021 at 11:42:40 GMT - Sano Miyuu (佐野水柚 Sano mizu yuzu) - Japanese Gravure Model
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“But look at what I’ve gotten from taking that step of faith. . . . most crucially, the opportunity to help some people feel less alone.”
Now here’s to Rui En living her best social media life.
Photoshop from picture posted by imgur on Sunday, 05 December 2021 at 11:42:40 GMT - Sano Miyuu (佐野水柚 Sano mizu yuzu) - Japanese Gravure Model
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\PHOTO: On accepting when things don't go according to plans
". . . Many of us have the delusion that we are the "masters of our own fates". Acceptance that I am certainly not in control of many things, but that God is, has been incredibly liberating. It means that if I know I tried my best and anything goes belly up, I don't have to beat myself up about it.
Unlearning a reflex action is a daily process. Somedays I win and somedays I don't. But it's ok. Am simply happy to be relatively free of the gang fights in my head." - by wilderseas29 on 03 October 2021
Photoshop from picture posted by shueisha.co.jp on 13 February 2018 - Takamiya Mari 高宮まり - Japanese Gravure Model
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https://www.grajapa.shueisha.co.jp/news/1034
". . . Many of us have the delusion that we are the "masters of our own fates". Acceptance that I am certainly not in control of many things, but that God is, has been incredibly liberating. It means that if I know I tried my best and anything goes belly up, I don't have to beat myself up about it.
Unlearning a reflex action is a daily process. Somedays I win and somedays I don't. But it's ok. Am simply happy to be relatively free of the gang fights in my head." - by wilderseas29 on 03 October 2021
Photoshop from picture posted by shueisha.co.jp on 13 February 2018 - Takamiya Mari 高宮まり - Japanese Gravure Model
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https://www.grajapa.shueisha.co.jp/news/1034
PHOTO: On gaslighting
"The term actually comes from a 1938 play called "Gas Light", where a husband manipulates his wife to make her think she’s actually losing her sense of reality so he can commit her to a mental institution and steal her inheritance. "You're too sensitive", "you're overreacting", all are common methods of gaslighting. There are many different methods and degrees of gaslighting, so many that it would be impossible for me to go into here.
Believe this, you and your emotions are more than worthy enough for anyone to take seriously. Gaslighting is a form of manipulation. Manipulation is something that I consciously choose to steer far away from. In my experience, you will never ever be truly heard with someone who employs manipulation as a technique, so I don't even bother.
My joy is something that I protect fiercely. . . . " - by wilderseas29 on 26 September 2021
Photoshop from picture posted by mabui-onna.com - Takamiya Mari 高宮まり - Japanese Gravure Model
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"The term actually comes from a 1938 play called "Gas Light", where a husband manipulates his wife to make her think she’s actually losing her sense of reality so he can commit her to a mental institution and steal her inheritance. "You're too sensitive", "you're overreacting", all are common methods of gaslighting. There are many different methods and degrees of gaslighting, so many that it would be impossible for me to go into here.
Believe this, you and your emotions are more than worthy enough for anyone to take seriously. Gaslighting is a form of manipulation. Manipulation is something that I consciously choose to steer far away from. In my experience, you will never ever be truly heard with someone who employs manipulation as a technique, so I don't even bother.
My joy is something that I protect fiercely. . . . " - by wilderseas29 on 26 September 2021
Photoshop from picture posted by mabui-onna.com - Takamiya Mari 高宮まり - Japanese Gravure Model
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https://mabui-onna.com/blog-entry-721.html
By Ho Guo Xiong, The New Paper, 20 February 2022 at 02:00 pm
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https://veryfatoldman.blogspot.com/2022/02/rui-en-rui-en-is-relieved-she-finally.html
Rui En (瑞恩 Ruì ēn): No need “to be petty, selfish and step on others to get ahead” (Warning: Nudity!), posted on Friday, 10 December 2021
https://veryfatoldman.blogspot.com/2021/12/rui-en-rui-en-no-need-to-be-petty.html
Rui En (瑞恩, Ruì ēn) spams Instagram Story hours after setting up account, posted on Tuesday, 10 August 2021
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