Wednesday, December 16, 2015

Take rejection well

Source Website: http://women.asiaone.com/women/relationships/time-i-asked-guy-out-told-9-singaporean-women
By Thea Lee, LunchClick, Thursday, 26 November 2015


It was hard to not take it personally, but ultimately, I managed to come to the same conclusion - that we were better off as friends.
PHOTO: "It was hard to not take it personally, but ultimately, I managed to come to the same conclusion - that we were better off as friends."
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In our rather conservative society, having a woman make the first move is highly unorthodox and almost unheard of. Women who ask guys out push the frontier of our dating conventions here in Singapore.

"Honestly, I feel like most guys in Singapore feel that it's their duty to ask girls out. Therefore, if he hasn't asked you out after a long time, he probably doesn't have feelings for you. I've tried asking this guy I had crushed on for two years out once, but things didn't work out.

"It was hard to not take it personally, but ultimately, I managed to come to the same conclusion - that we were better off as friends." (Melanie, 22, Student)


The friendzone exists for girls too
PHOTO: The friendzone exists for girls too
I tried to ask my very attractive guy friend out once, and he laughed in my face, before realising I was serious. 
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"Speaking as someone who's been there and done that, I have to say that asking a friend out is the worst thing you can do. I tried to ask my very attractive guy friend out once, and he laughed in my face, before realising I was serious.

"Things got awkward between us for quite a while, and all our mutual friends found out about it. Of course, they tried to defuse the tension but ended up making it even more awkward because of how contrived it all was." (Jennifer, 20, Student)


I asked this guy out once, and he rejected me immediately. Tests show that it takes a further 20 encounters for someone to change their opinion of you. One of your acquaintances could be objectively much prettier than you.
PHOTO: I asked this guy out once, and he rejected me immediately. Tests show that it takes a further 20 encounters for someone to change their opinion of you. One of your acquaintances could be objectively much prettier than you.
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"I asked this guy out once, and he rejected me immediately, stating that he has too much on his plate to get involved in a relationship, but started dating one of our acquaintances (who is objectively much prettier than me) soon after." (Clarissa, 22, Student)


There will always be things ladies do that send guys fleeing in the opposite direction - things that are utterly intolerable; things you might find in How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days, for instance.
PHOTO: There will always be things ladies do that send guys fleeing in the opposite direction - things that are utterly intolerable; things you might find in How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days, for instance.
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You could be the cutest girl in class or the coolest cat at work. But there will always be things ladies do that send guys fleeing in the opposite direction - things that are utterly intolerable; things you might find in How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days, for instance.


You have to have treated the person well and cultivated mutual feelings of attraction and appreciation in the past. Someone won't want to go out with you just because you're asking.
PHOTO: You have to have treated the person well and cultivated mutual feelings of attraction and appreciation in the past. Someone won't want to go out with you just because you're asking.
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"Someone won't want to go out with you just because you're asking - you have to have treated the person well and cultivated mutual feelings of attraction and appreciation in the past. Don't surprise the guy with the question - I started regularly contacting the guy once I realised I was attracted to him.

"I also scheduled group meetups involving him, and paid special attention to what he was saying. A few months into that, I asked him out, and he said yes." (Andrea, 28, Marketing Executive)


Asking someone out can be really nerve-wrecking, but it's better to have tried and failed than to consign yourself to a life of 'what-if's. The results may surprise you!
PHOTO: Asking someone out can be really nerve-wrecking, but it's better to have tried and failed than to consign yourself to a life of 'what-if's. The results may surprise you!
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Asking someone out can be really nerve-wrecking, but it's better to have tried and failed than to consign yourself to a life of 'what-if's. Take a leaf out of one of these girls' books and try asking the guy you've had your eye on out! The results may surprise you!

By Thea Lee, LunchClick, Thursday, 26 November 2015



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